Parents said I’m a negative person

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It was actually my dad who mentioned it, but my mum has called me that before too. I’ve always considered myself realistic, not negative.

I work constantly to pay the bills, and I rarely have any money left for fun. If I do manage to save a little, something always seems to break in the house or the car. It feels like an endless cycle. Wake up, go to work, come home, make tea, go to bed, and repeat. My dating life is non existent (tbh, the men on offer are shocking and I can’t imagine I’ll ever have the chance to have kids). I get it, that’s life. It’s shit. I don’t moan, but I’m not going to jump up and down about it either, am I?

My dad, however, is overly positive. Even if his whole world is falling apart, he’ll act like everything is amazing. It does my head in. It’s just not real life.

AIBU?

Nobody wants to be around a mood hoover.

Can you give some examples of recent conversations?

Yes a bit. Life really is what you make of it. So yes we all have to wade through tons of crap but some us have fun doing it. Fun, happy people are easier to spend time with. I’m mean you’ve got to do it anyway do you might as well find something to enjoy about it.

If I look at my life objectively, I'm a massive loser with very little to show for my age. But I have a cracking sense of humour and on a day-to-day basis I have a lot of fun.

The trick is - not to look at my life objectively.

There’s a middle ground between fully positive and ‘I get it, life’s shit😉’ You’re both just very different!

My dad, who is the most negative person I know, describes himself as ‘realistic’.

Most people would prefer to spend time with your dad. People prefer radiators to hoovers, he’s right to try and see the positives in life.

Do you not have anything that brings you joy?