Family accusing partner of beating me

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About a year into seeing somebody, 9 months ish into relationship. Family have refused to meet new DP. (Seperately, DC not met as don’t believe in introducing kids to new relationships) keep saying don’t like the look of them (no idea why or where the hell this comes from, “gut feeling apparently???” I’m in hospital currently after an accident at home (my own fault) where I’ve potentially broken my nose, last month I had a freak accident with my cat who cut my lip. Called my mother to make arrangements for DC while I wait to be seen, que screaming accusations that DP is beating me and she KNOWS it’s true and her gut tells her so.

wtaf. There’s no drip feed. No crazy appearance. No history of blazing arguments or family even being involved in any way. I’ve been NC for a while and am now considering going back but feel it’ll add to the accusations. WIBU?

Sorry this kind of accusation has came from a grandparent too. Utterly bewildered.

Well if you know he's not beating you I'm not sure what you think you could be being unreasonable about

To go no contact. It’s an age old tale my mother brings drama to my life in every way, particularly when drama ie this accident is already unfolding. I’ve gave another chance due to immense pressure from other family members. I’m already sick of it.

Have you got a history of dating violent or unhealthy men? I know you said they haven't met but do they know of this man? Perhaps they've heard gossip or something. If so and looking at it from an outsiders POV due to the injuries I can kind of understand why they've come to that conclusion and might be concerned.

If this is not the case and believe they are just trying to cause trouble in your relationship then by all means cut contact. However, as a precaution, if they are right and you are in the very common stage where you feel shame and are covering for your partner then please don't isolated away from any support network you have.

Never. Long term relationship with well rounded doctor for 15 years followed by a short relationship with someone who wasn’t amazing but wasn’t bad just a bit of a silly beggar. Now this.

Wasn't bad but a bit of a silly beggar? What does that mean? Could they have heard rumours about your current partner? To be honest, two separate incidents resulting in a broken nose and a cut lip do sound a bit suspicious. I think there may be more to this than you've actually said. If your family are just generally causing drama for no reason, you're probably better off having minimal contact. But I think it's highly unusual for family to be concerned about a partner with no good reason.