To be annoyed when people say … but.. you do you

[Absentmindedsmile]

‘You do you’ 🤢🤢🤢🤢

Fck off. I keep seeing this on MN comments. Don’t hear it in real life.

Similar to ‘give your head wobble’ but worse.

Or , " I am not racist / homophonic/ sexist but .... , and then follow with a comment that clearly is .

This is my take on it too. It's a very useful phrase.

i really hate
Gentle reminder

the dentist sends an email with a gentle reminder
why?
just send a reminder

I use it irl all the time, actually have it as a tattoo. It's a great life mantra I think. Never mean it passive aggressively. I agree with @skippy67 and @FightingTemeraire above. However I use it more when I've been asked for my opinion or advice. I seem to have a fair few anxious friends who think they're parenting 'wrong' so they ask others how they're doing it, and sometimes I'll explain how we do things but very much in a 'this works for us but you do you!' tone.

I sincerely think you should do what works for you and your unit, without guilt or comparison to others, and I will do the same. What works for me may not be right for you, and that should be completely fine. Therefore...you do you!

And usually aimed at someone who is completely wrong, everyone is telling them they’re wrong but they refuse to see it and want to carry on arguing about it.

It’s a way to shut them up so everyone can move on.

I’ve heard it used in real life. I’ve used it in real life. I can use it here too if you like.

My mum says "it wouldn't do for us all to be the same" which sounds nice written down but is said in a tone that clearly means you aren't doing it like i would and youre wrong.

You're Mrs Wrong from Wrong Street in Wrong Town and it is a personal attack on my character that you're not doing it my way.

‘That doesn’t work for me’ is another MN one I’ve never heard in RL. IMO a daft
expression - just say sorry, I can’t, too busy/tied up/have something else on. I don’t know why some people seem to have an aversion to plain English.

In my experience its only ever used in a haughty sense, said by people who are judgy twits

When posters write a comment then put "no?" at the end turning it into a question.
It's SO patronising.

i guess it depends how its said, my lovely colleague would sometimes say it to me but it was generally in a joking manner

It really doesn’t. It simply means ‘I can’t be arsed arguing with you about naming your baby Jelly Bean-Makkaelah, so off you go.’

I’m tempted to poke someone in the ribs if I hear “making <fucking> memories” said out loud. Unless one has a form of dementia, everyone makes memories, good, bad or indifferent. Hearing it boils my piss ♨️🤣

I like it, as well as "it isn't that deep"

Some modern turns of phrases are great.

Me too, and 'polite' reminder.

It’s completely the other way round for me! I’ve always regarded ‘you do you’ as a satisfying put-down for someone who’s being judgy about you - criticising the way you’re doing something, or suggesting that their way is better.

I'm not keen on unmumsnetty hugs myself...

Ooo you’ve reminded me of another one. That is said irl. ‘Jog on’ 🤢

😂😂

And you don’t even need to say it. Just point to your tattoo.. not a word need be spoken further..

Omg, if ‘everyone is telling them they’re wrong’, they simply must be! Thank goodness you’ve found a way to try and silence them!

I’ve used both of these in the past week!

“You know what, you do you” to my 5 year old who wanted a bath bomb in the shower, and “summer holiday childcare costs virtually my entire salary for the month but it is what it is, I can’t avoid it”.

And I recently used “no offence”, in the context of “no offence but it’s Friday evening, I know I’m sitting next to you on the train and our kids went to nursery together, Mr KidsFriendDad, but I’m just going to to put my earphones in and scroll for the whole journey home instead of engaging in small talk for 40 minutes”. I’m basically a one woman annoying-soundbite machine. 😐

I agree. Particularly when someone has asked for advice/opinions “you’ve asked, you’ve been told you’re wrong, you’re ignoring that, so whatever, you do you”

we went to a hotel, dd was nosily asking why me and dh went for single beds, more room than a double, when we are used to a kingsize,
i was pleased when the receptionist said It isnt that deep
ha ha

😂 it's not often on show, probably be the topic of a whole new thread if I was to go around flashing it! 'aibu not to want to see why friends ribs every time I ask her for advice?!'

It's in memoriam to someone who used to say it a lot, thought it was a good life mantra to remember I don't have to be a people pleaser and not everyone needs to agree.Think when used kindly it needn't be a condescending or irritating phrase.