Should a 13 yr old be invited out at 10.15pm on a Friday night?

[MargeSimpsonMyAlterEgo]

I nearly fainted; two of DS' friends turned up at the door to see if he was "coming out". Where the hell were they going to go? And what the hell were they going to do?!!

YANBU. Who would let their 13 yr olds out at that time?

Far too late for an unplanned invite.

Not necessarily too late, IMO, if the invite has been planned and you are happy about who your ds is with and where they are going - for instance, late night dvd and sleepover at a friend's house with parents around.

what tigermoth said.

i would certainly not let my dd out at that time.. and would be concerned as to what friends she was hanging around with that have parents that allow them to be out and about at that time, fri or not.

No here too.My ds is 14 and it would still be no and I would be wary of any friends who were allowed out this late too.None of ds's are allowed out after 7 in winter and 8.30 in summer when its really light God i sound a right old bag

No.

No way!!

I always wonder what the kids I see on the streets at that time of night are up to

And if they were going for a DVD/sleepover night I would have expected them to go hours before that.

Christ, no! What were they doing out at that time of night.

Bloody Hell what are their parents doing letting them out at that time of night.

Good grief no. Dd2's friends once called round at 9pm (she is 9). Dd2 was already in bed asleep!!! (these kids are regularly out until 10pm)

Well it would be reasonable to ask where they are planning to go and what they are planning to do but, you know, there isn't a State Mandated Bedtime. And it was a Friday night, not a school night. As to whether or not one's own child could or should go out at that time, depends a lot on the child as well as where he/she would be going: some DC are sensible at 13 some are still playing with dolls and crayons.

What tigermoth said.

I have a 13 year old stepson and my partner would be horrified if his friends turned up on the doorstep at that time. Said stepson would be long in bed asleep in any case.

Absolutely not!

Thanks. You know when suddenly you think "is it me?!". I agree about kids being very different at that age, but even so I was gobsmacked. Thing is, I'm generally heading off to bed myself by that time...