I have three kids and work full time so life is full on. Sometimes I just mention that I have a lot on, not in a moany or dramatic way, just as a fact. But every time I do, my DM jumps in with something like, "Well your brother is busy too" or "It's not just you who's tired."
My younger brother still lives at home with her. He doesn’t have kids or a partner. My mum does all the cooking and cleaning for him. He works a regular 9-5 job but doesn’t have any hobbies or much of a social life. He mostly watches sports on TV in his spare time.
I'm not saying that people without kids can't be busy. Of course they can. But realistically he has a lot more freedom than I do. He doesn’t have the constant responsibilities that come with raising children and running a household.
It’s like she’s trying to put us on the same level when we’re clearly not juggling the same things. I find it really frustrating when I mention feeling overwhelmed and she immediately brings him into it, as if I'm being unfair or exaggerating.
What frustrates me even more is that my mum had four kids herself and worked, so it’s not like she doesn’t know how intense it can be. You’d think she’d be a bit more understanding when I say I’ve got a lot on, rather than jumping to defend my brother every time.
AIBU to find this really annoying?