To ask if you think you give off good vibes?

[MyGentleDenimEagle]

I’m not talking about being bubbly or extroverted - just the energy people pick up from you. Do you think you come across as warm, approachable, calm, confident? Or have people ever told you the opposite and surprised you?

I’ve been thinking lately about the difference between how we feel we show up vs. how others experience us. Curious to hear what others think they give off.

With the amount of nutters who approach me for a chat I'm assuming I look approachable. If only they could see me dying inside 😅 luckily for them I'm actually quite nice so I'll give them the chat they need😁

Same. My sister-in-law said it's because I seem like a warm person. Strangers in public start conversations with me all the time. Dogs and babies always like me, too, so it's not all bad.

I don’t think I come across as warm and approachable, as I am not. When I am out I just concentrate on whatever I am doing. Children like me though.

My DH says I give off skeptical and slightly aloof vibes (I am actually quite deaf, so it's more not hearing than actively ignoring).
Weirdly I think I give off good Mum vibes as teenagers routinely smile at me!

I often get told that people think I am stuck up and a snob until they get to know me. I grew up poor as fuck so I am most certainly not stuck up or a snob but I am shy and a bit socially anxious in my personal life (not at work though weirdly) and I think that quiet awkwardness is often read as thinking that you are better than others and too good to talk to them maybe?

In work I have been told that I can be unapproachable but I spend oodles of time supporting junior colleagues and new starts so it really confuses me.

I used to think I gave off calm and friendly energy, but a few people have told me I seem distant or unapproachable at first. It really surprised me because I don’t feel that way on the inside. I just tend to be quiet when I don’t know people well. It’s made me more aware that the way I feel internally isn’t always how others experience me. Still figuring it out, honestly.

do a johari window exercise. The results I got surprised me massively, in a positive way

I suspect I give off leave me alone vibes, because I’m shit at lying.

Are you me? Word for word what i was going to say.

I don't think about it and don't give a shit either way tbh.
I think I take after my mum who always comes across as a cold fish but we both are on the spectrum and she has Parkinsons. Chances are my facade means I will develop Parkinsons too.
To the people I know and like I am lovely and they are the only people who matter.
I can sufficiently mask at work as wfh.

People say I look like a bitch. I used to care but don’t anymore.

Weird this should come up now. I'm on a table outside a cafe. A woman passed and sat at the table next to me. Without saying anything something about her seemed "approachable".

I didn't spark up a chat but while I've been sitting here three different strangers have stopped to talk to her and she's engaged back. Nobody has ever randomly stopped to talk to me. 😭

Mind you, the third person was a frail elderly man who obviously fancied his chances with her. (Because attractive, articulate women in their 20s often fancy 90yos on zimmer frames with colostomy bags. 🤦‍♂️) None the less she was friendly and engaging with him.

I guess she has the Riz, and I don't. 😭

People always like me. So I suppose I must throw off some appeal. I’m easygoing, calm, and I laugh easily and a lot, which is what I always find approachable and likeable in others.

I'm told I give off a warm, friendly and chilled vibe, and I'm good to be around if anyone's feeling anxious as I chill them out too.

No I have a RBF and people have literally told me once they've got to know me I'm not like they first thought. Apparently I come across as standoffish and snobby. I don't mean to. In my defence I'm autistic and I tend to be quite reserved until I know people well.

Difficult to answer! Who knowns how others perceive them? I certainly meet some people I immediately gel with.

But, on the other hand, all through my life I've had this thing where sometimes a friend or family member will assume I am being nasty, devious or somehow duplicitous, and that is so far from what goes on in my head that I am taken aback every time. So I must, actually, give off some kind of vibe. I sort of accept it's going to happen now, which is a shame. My very nearest and dearest know who I am, that's what matters.