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To want to leave my job?

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TipsyPlumUser · 24/07/2025 12:58

I work in public relations for a big organisation. I was upfront in my interview and didn’t pretend to be anything other than me and was given the job.

The person who lost out to me was also given a role within the wider team and since then have not stopped going on about how they came in second for my role.

When they cover for our team (out at lunch or meetings), they will finish off my work.

They are a lot younger than me and are across absolutely everything- they read all the reports across all departments in their spare time. I don’t have that time outside of work.

my head of department (not on interview panel) has said a few times in meetings how my colleague was born to do my job. I’ve had no such praise.

My other team member in my direct team, was sacked yesterday.

When I started with the team, my line manager was keen for me to learn the ropes cautiously and check everything with her as we went. Because she made it clear that’s how she wanted things, I’ve continued to work like that. Now the colleague who went for my job is getting praised for jumping straight in and ‘getting things done.’

my self confidence is so low I don’t know if I want to fight as hard as I’d need to on this one.

am I being a bit pathetic to want to leave? I have raised my concerns to my line manager but there’s only so many times she can give me a pep talk. They’re talking about bringing in the colleague who came in second to take over from the colleague who was sacked. It’s a good move for the business but I can already see me getting pushed out.

what would you do? am I being a bit pathetic?

OP posts:
Jojimoji · 24/07/2025 13:07

The other person was not picked for your job at this time. You were.

The comments about them being " born for this role" and their spending time reading reports that you don't have time for, or jumping straight in to do things, all speak to their youth, and to their possible role in the company in the future.

Maybe this colleague will set the world on fire in years to come but for the time being, right now, remember YOU were selected for the role....and there's a reason for that.

Tutorpuzzle · 24/07/2025 13:26

God, your colleague sounds irritating. Life, especially working life, should not be this hard. Sometimes it helps to hang on though.
I realised within a month of starting a job last December that I was going to be taken complete advantage of, because of my qualifications, rather than being allowed to do the job I applied for.
However, I decided to think a bit strategically, and suck it up, because I knew it would be amazing experience. I’ve just left that job and am about to start a new one which I’d never have got without that experience.
Would it be possible to start thinking ahead? Let your colleague get on with it, keep quiet, just do your job and start planning your exit?

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