I know it’s unreasonable but is it at least a bit normal?

[Scubadoobadoo]

Pregnant and SO out of shape (having previously been the epitome of fitness) and I just lost my rag with DH for mentioning his friend and how fit and energetic she is. He meant gym type of fit, not 90s rude boy “phwoar that bird’s so fit”.

Poor man has never been anything but adoring of my newfound shape (potato. I am potato shaped), and supportive of me sitting on the sofa and eating.

But I may have reacted as if he’d bedded this woman and hung the bedsheets on our washing line as proof.

I apologised and all was fine but please share your unreasonable pregnancy stories.

So why is your H making a point of praising his fit and energetic woman friend to you?
At best it's thoughtless. At worst it's been done on purpose because he knew it would upset you.

I don't think you're unreasonable at all, why on earth did he mention that? Insensitive idiot.

He should be the one apologising, insensitive git.

You can be as irrational and emotional as you like, you are growing a whole human inside of you. I remember crying because I felt too sick to eat a bread roll so dh asked if he could have it, that was the ultimate crime in my opinion. He thought he was being sensible and not wasting food.

You're not out of shape. You have a temporary special and amazing shape. If you were the epitome of fitness before your pregnancy, you will still be fit and healthy, just in a different way while your body does one of the fittest healthiest things it ever will. Hopefully your partner understands this, so when he mentioned the woman genuinely didn't think it would bother you on account of you bring in such amazing and special shape yourself right now.

You are pregnant.

That means anybody and everybody is wrong and you are not unreasonable.

I have never been pregnant but in a fit of rage due to PMT I told a friend he was, "being a man, viciously and repeatedly".

Goddess only knows what my hormones would have me do in pregnancy.

I sobbed on the loo whilst my DH was having a bath at my PILs house. I was sobbing because my MIL hadn't cooked enough potatoes for mash.

To be honest I think blaming her pregnancy for her reaction is wrong. He was way out of line for saying what he said, whether she’s pregnant or not.

Would what he said have been of any relevance/interest even if you weren't pregnant Op?

I burnt the toast.😭😭😭

Honestly he wasn’t really even praising her. He was more comparing his own fitness levels and age to hers, it wasn’t a commentary on mine. It was completely in context of a conversation we were having.

He does plenty of things I could legitimately be annoyed about but this isn’t one of them!

I remember crying and being so annoyed because my DH hadn't bought me McDonald's home (even though he asked, I said no, he double checked and I insisted I didn't need anymore McDonald's) 😂

Outrageous. I hope you took him to the cleaners in the divorce. Bastard.