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I'm pregnant and struggling with my husband — feeling lost, please help

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Luna69 · 23/07/2025 23:40

Hi everyone,
I'm currently 7 months pregnant with our first child, and I’m feeling incredibly overwhelmed. My husband and I have been having serious issues — he’s become very distant, hardly speaks to me anymore, and seems annoyed by everything I do. I’ve tried to talk to him calmly, but he either shuts down or turns things around on me.
I feel alone and unsupported, especially at a time when I need him the most. I don't have close family nearby, and my friends don’t really understand what I’m going through. I’m scared about doing this on my own and unsure how to move forward
Has anyone been through something similar during pregnancy? How did you cope or get through it? I just need some support and guidance right now.
Thank you so much in advance!.

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IdaPrentice · 25/07/2025 00:58

Men sometimes start being distant, cold, and irritated by their partner, when they're having an affair. Sorry to throw that possibility into the mix.

Luna69 · 25/07/2025 16:48

IdaPrentice · 25/07/2025 00:58

Men sometimes start being distant, cold, and irritated by their partner, when they're having an affair. Sorry to throw that possibility into the mix.

It’s okay i’ve actually thought about that too, but pushed it aside because i didn’t want to believe it. the way he’s been acting… it wouldn’t completely surprise me.
It hurts to even consider, but i know i can’t ignore the signs anymore. thank you for being honest.

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Luna69 · 25/07/2025 16:51

Lmox · 25/07/2025 00:22

You’re being really brave and a great mum

I really needed to hear that. Some days i don’t feel brave at all, but I’m trying my best for my baby. your words mean a lot 💜.

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Luna69 · 25/07/2025 16:53

wannagoome · 25/07/2025 00:52

I think distance and lack of reasonable discussion can come out of many things including stress/anxiety, however the impact on you is the same and if he won’t discuss you’re in a difficult place.

I just wanted to make you aware as you mentioned not having family nearby, if you would want to relocate closer to family or friends if you broke up, it is much easier to do this legally before baby is born, as once born the father has contact rights if he chooses to exert them and may be able to prevent you relocating the child. Choosing to breastfeed if you can also protects your time with baby. Just in case you’re unlucky enough that he wants to cause you upset after breakup. Hopefully it won’t come to all that but it’s useful to know - I had no idea and got trapped by an angry controlling ex.

Thank you so much for this I honestly didn’t know that. It’s scary but really important to hear. I’ll keep it in mind in case things do go that way. I’m so sorry you went through that.

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