To contact former landlord?

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My former landlord was a nightmare. It was filthy when we moved in. She wouldn't do repairs, let herself in the property one day and shouted at my then partner.

She lied to the deposit protection scheme, saying she had called and given us a few hundred pounds to go towards a new vinyl in the kitchen. She didn't give us any money.

The stress ultimately contributed to the breakdown of mine and partners relationship. After ten years with the love of my life, we couldn't take anymore and were snappy with each other constantly. He turned to drink.

I've come across the landlord on a website. We always went through an agengynexceot for when she turned up unannounced. She provides a service which is how I've come across her. Even though it was 2018 when we moved out and ex and I went our separate ways, I want to tell her exactly what stress she put us through. I want her to consider her actions and have some remorse. Should I email her? Would it be classed as harassment potentially?

Op why not write the email, vent your feelings but don't send it?? At least you might feel better x

I was going to suggest similar!

OP- Does she have any reviews for the 'service' she provides? I doubt emailing her now would achieve much. I'd be more inclined to write an anonymous review, but keeping it vague enough to not identify yourself.

Thanks. I just want her to feel something about the stress and hurt from the fallout both me and my ex went through. It was horrendous really. The deposit protection scheme sided with her too and they believed she had given us the couple of hundred pounds for new vinyl flooring, despite her not having any proof.

I really wouldn’t do this OP - anyone that awful is highly unlikely to feel any empathy or remorse so you won’t get the closure you’re hoping for. If you can anonymously review her services, however…

It seems very extreme for your partner to turn to drink based on the behaviour of your landlord. She seems like a bitch but surely there was more going on there?

I wouldn’t contact her directly because, as has already been said, someone like her probably won’t care or even recognise she has done wrong. If she’s still a landlord though, you could report her to the relevant authorities so they are aware of her conduct in case future tenants make complaints against her. Possibly report her to the agency she used when you lived there as well.

I used to have a rogue landlord. We moved out in 2011. He evicted us at Christmas with a newborn baby and a stress about the deposit even though we’d had no heating in the end. It’s only in the last year or so that I’ve stopped dreaming about a confrontation with him were I to see him in Tesco (I did once and thought about actually doing it) or if I applied for a job where he worked and it happened to be him that conducted the interview and how I’d embarrass him in front of the panel. I completely understand your feelings. You can’t actually do it but my god it would be so good!

I want her to consider her actions and have some remorse
Of course that would be the ultimate outcome but the chances of her doing so reading your email is minuscule. What would be significantly more likely is her to consider your email as evidence that you are vengeful and were definitely in the wrong in the first place.

Wanting so badly for people who've caused us pain to feel remorse doesn't mean any of our actions will make it happen, it usually triggers exactly the opposite.

She won’t be bothered by your email. I wouldn’t send it but would leave a vague review.