Another rebound one.

[Ifonlyy]

I ended my LTR relationship a month ago and within 2 weeks he is already with somebody else! Introducing the kids to her etc like it is completely normal! We was on a family holiday a month ago and already he has introduced the kids to somebody else, I am honestly so so shocked and hurt (although it proves I made the right decision at the time)

Hmmm, any chance she’s been around longer than two weeks?

Have you considered that she was probably around before you broke up?

Some people just cannot stand to be alone can they? Sorry that it's upset you, it is galling when people move on so swiftly. I do wonder why people don't take a proper break from dating to reflect on why their previous relationship ended and to ensure they are not taking baggage from their former situation into a new one. But glad you can see it for what it is - it's not normal, and people who don't stop to really think about things run the risk of repeating poor behaviour. My ex husband was very much like this - a total Peter Pan, never grew up because he just bounded from one relationship to another like an overexcited spaniel...

They have always been friends. He says she wasn’t but I really do not believe it. At this point it doesn’t matter but I’m just a bit shocked about the kids.

I mean even if she was there, leave it for a while or at least in secret! I called to see how the kids were and they were all on a play date together, madness. Im still in a heap on the floor getting over this mess, what a waste of 20 years, but I have my lovely children and I feel even more determined to stay single for a while to show them what is right, a relationship is the last thing on my mind

Did it take you a while to get used to the idea? He is all I have known for 20 bloody years!

It did, but luckily it is very, very far in my past now - 20 years! I am so sorry that his behaviour is so disappointing when you are already hurting.

Why do they do it though? How can they possibly think that is normal? Even his parents told me to just get over it as I ended it, ridiculous. I mean I know I will eventually, just glad I didn’t waste any more time.

Ego I think. Certainly the case with my ex. It's not remotely normal - particularly when children are involved - but some people just cannot stand to not be in the spotlight of someone else's adoration.

did you then go onto meet somebody else?

I did, although not with them now. In a weird way it made me feel grateful for having gone through that situation with my ex because it absolutely taught me what I would and would not put up with from future relationships. You’re in such early stages, it must be difficult to see the wood for the trees, but I promise you it does get better.

Thanks so much

Also, I am gutted at his parents as they have known me for years and now just seem to have completely turned against me

you decided to end it and he has moved on and found somebody

what did you expect

That I understand, the kids however, not so sure it should have been so quick

@Ifonlyy

what is the right period of time after being dumped?

I mean, everybody is different but personally I would rather stand on a plug than be in a relationship so soon after 20 years so it is hard for me to understand how somebody can want that, however that isn’t my issue, leave the kids out of it for a while they have been through enough.