Comments about size in pregancy

[kimonok]

Right, just a moan really. I'm 39 weeks pregnant.

My parents live quite far away so I haven't seen them in a month or so. DH and I went out for a final date the other day and I thought it would be nice to send my mum a picture of us both which shows off my bump, as she hasn't seen it in a while.

I thought it was a really nice photo and we looked happy and healthy, waiting for our new arrival.

Cue the response "Wow you're MASSIVE. This baby is gonna be a WHOPPER".

Throughout my pregnancy she has made comments about my size and what she thinks the weight of the baby is going to be.

Strangely, most of the comments until now have been about how little weight I've gained (about 2 stone in all which I think is actually just around average, and I'm fine with that - I really don't care as long as we're healthy). She says it as if it's some kind of achievement - "look at you, you've not gained much weight considering, you've done well!" etc.

I'm getting completely exasperated with these comments about my size in either direction, and had a bit of an outburst at her on the phone today when she was demanding she must be called as soon as the baby is born to tell her the weight.

I told her my phone will be switched off on the day until DH and I are ready to update people.

Argh - AIBU to be annoyed by this and is anyone else sick to death of comments on size/ weight, both of bumps and babies??!

I simply don't understand why it's a thing, as long as mum and baby are healthy. It never even occurs to me to ask what a baby weighs or comment on a pregnant woman's size... none of my friends are like this so is it a generational thing??

You sent a picture of your bump and she pointed out its size.

It's a baby bump. It becomes obvious and it's literally only about what you can see and how it gets bigger. There's nothing else to say except to compare how it's changed over time.

It was a pic of me and DH in a restaurant enjoying a nice meal, and I had my hand on my bump. She could have commented on us looking happy/ healthy/ ready for baby/ being excited to meet her granchild/ ask how we're getting on/ if we're ready/ any number of other things.

DH sent it to his sister, and I sent it to my aunt, dad and a couple of friends, all who just said we look happy and they are excited for us. No mention of my size.

She could have, but she said what she wanted to. It's very normal to comment on a baby's size.

If you're so ready, happy, healthy or whatever you don't need to send photos to your entire family hoping they'll confirm it

I don’t understand why people still haven’t learned that it’s not okay to comment on people’s bodies, pregnant or not. Particularly Mums and their daughters, they have a way of saying it to just give you the absolute rage don’t they.

I think you’re being really over sensitive. If you didn’t want your mum to comment, you shouldn’t have sent her a photo showing your bump. I can’t imagine not having wanted my mum to know that my baby had arrived safely and its size immediately after the birth. My husband was queueing up to use the Paul bone in the hospital to call my mum and his mum when I was being taken up to the ward.

I'm nearly 38 weeks, I understand!! You can't win. I've had both comments this week.

It's rude. I honestly think some people forget that you're a person when you're pregnant and just see you as some sort of animal or something.

But you say in your post a photo which ‘shows off my bump’

i loved having a big bump, as I felt my baby was growing well

Yabu