Please someone tell me this is not normal or am I being unreasonable?
Currently crying over something so trivial, a shelf from the freezer left out over an hour by DH with food in it (defrosting by now). But also, when I pointed out to him what he had done he notice the knife that he left out with the handle poking out of the worktop slightly (we have 2 young kids and he constantly does this which I constantly point out is a safety issue as it’s in reach), but I’ve already had words today because he left the food waste bin lid open to the elements (flies) after he put some food in it. I just feel like such a nag because he constantly goes around and leaves a mess, which is sometimes dangerous for little children, and I feel like I have to point these things out because:
a. Our eldest is 7yo and he should know better about leaving dangerous things out,
b. We’re in our mid-30’s, well he’s nearer to 40,
c. I’ve mentioned before how I just need him to tidy up after himself to set an example for our DC’s and I’l tidy up after myself and our DC’s,
d. I’ve had enough of waking up from night shifts on the weekend when he’s in charge or DC’s and the house is an absolute tip, the DC’s are pumped full of sugar and I’m left to tidy up after everyone, which makes me mad/sad, which affects the whole house, which then makes me feel guilty (but if people cleaned after themselves I wouldn’t even get to that stage).
is this normal or does someone have any guidance please because I seem to take the brunt of the guilt and then feel like I’m overreacting, but I feel like it shouldn’t be that hard to keep the house tidy’ish (toy clutter is fine, rubbish on the floor is not), and to keep any dangerous items away from young kids reach.