I need some advice on mum friends through schools.
Where we live, we have separate infants and junior schools. Due to this my kids have mixed classes and friendship groups a few times.
My eldest is off to secondary school in September and I have developed a group of friends through his friends mums. We have often gone out for drinks, meals etc and I have been an active member of the group. I'm not much of a gossip and generally have got on well with them all, or so I thought.
We all met up recently for end of school activities and it became clear to me that the group was splitting into 2 smaller groups and that I didn't fit into either of them. Both sets have obviously met up as small groups and I've not been invited either way.
I feel a bit stupid to be honest. I've known someone from each group for both schools and like them all. I've not done or said anything offensive and if I've ever suggested a night out, most have come along. My interests cross over with many in the group and I've never felt like I haven't fitted in this whole time. Or that I was too much or in anyone's face either.
What do I do now? I don't feel like I can suggest activities at the pretense of my child as the kids have drifted apart a bit and are going their own ways. This kind of happened when the kids all changed school last time. I have people I get on with, it's just that no one seems to want to hang out anymore.
I work from home, so don't really meet people that way. I've joined a yoga class to meet others that way but I'm a bit younger than many of them and so don't fit in there either.
Do I just let these relationships fizzle out, or do I push and make an idiot of myself?
How do you make friends as a peri-menopausal woman in her 40's? It all feels so lonely sometimes.