One of my friends at work is struggling. She split with her partner last year, and moved to be nearer her family. It was all rather unpleasant, they had 2 kids (adopted) and one has gone with each parent.
The one who my friend has moved with is high functioning autistic/ADHD. From what she says he is unmanageable - violent to her, steals from her, destroys things, horrible to other kids. Has 100% refused school since she moved, she has managed together him into a place for SEN from Sept.
Her role often requires her to chair meetings/deliver training across Teams. The child is very disruptive and work have basically said she can’t do childcare while working. They know he needs constant supervision as she’s sought welfare support from work, and he’s been seen talking to her in meetings numerous times, he just won’t leave her alone. He’s 12 but can’t be trusted to be left on his own for longer than 15 minutes. He’s done things at her relatives homes that means they will not help.
She was kind of managing and had got him into a summer club, but after 3 days they’ve said he can’t come any more - stealing, being spiteful to other kids, wrecking things etc. she’s now got 3 weeks with no childcare, and she can’t afford the £100 per day her babysitter costs.
Any ideas to help her? She’s had tutors for a bit of time from SS but the support is pitiful tbh. I’m really concerned about her.