AIBU for pronouncing the name Brooke as BrOOKe rather than Bruck

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I’m a Geordie and pronounce words such as Book, Look and Cook with an oo sound rather than the uck sound.
A family who are from about an hour a way said that her daughter is sick of everyone pronouncing her name incorrectly.

I explained that it’s an accent thing as we pronounce those words with an oo sound rather that uck so it wouldn’t occur to most people to pronounce it that way and they wouldn’t deliberately mispronounce her name!

Just as if I go another part of the country or different country they pronounce my name differently depending on their accent.

AIBU?

Derbyshire here, we say Brooke as Bruck, Luck, Truck, Book, Cook etc.. all the same.

No, the OP is pronouncing the name as it is pronounced in her accent. The same as you would pronounce an American or French person's name in your accent. You would be 'choosing' NOT to pronounce it as they pronounce it. There is no difference in your examples. You think there's a difference because you have accent bias. You think that if you copied someone else's accent to pronounce their name, that would sound silly and as if you were taking the piss. But that's exactly what you're saying the OP should do. It's the exact same thing.

So you think people should mimic a different accent to pronounce someone's name? What if my name was Brooke too? How about I insist she pronounce my name with a Scottish accent, with a rolled R and a strong OOO sound, while I tried to put on the accent that she uses to address her? Would all be a bit silly, would it not?

Far better that her parents teach her about different accents across Britain and that not everyone pronounces letters in the same way - look at the issues we see especially on the Baby Names forum, when someone tries to phonetically describe a sound but not everyone gets what they mean, as has happened on this thread too.

There was even one woman complaining once about the name Helen being mispronounced as "Hellin" with a schwa on the second E instead of an "Eh" sound. That caused more arguments than you might imagine.

This seven-year-old is going to have to learn quickly that she can't expect all Geordies to adopt her accent just to say a common name, and heaven help her if they move north of the border.

That is all fine! As soon as you talk to someone else who pronounces their name Bruck, and who would like their name pronouncing as Bruck, and you are CAPABLE of saying the word Bruck, you shouldn't then change it to your preferred pronunciation, just because that 'is how we say it round 'ere'.

It really doesn't matter how it is spelled, or what you would call your next door neighbour, the girl's name is Bruck, just call her Bruck!

Good job. Our house is still split by the great diluting juice/squash divide, but we press on.

I mean, of course I’ve heard southerners talk but can’t specifically remember any of them say fuck, brook, cook, wood, or any of the examples here. Especially not enough that I’d even notice it. And, like I said, even the videos of pronunciations of truck and Brooke (Shields) sounded exactly the same to me, but clearly to the poster who shared them they sound different.

I tried looking at the foot strut split as suggested, but all the words given as examples on Google have the same vowel sound to my ear (foot, strut, put, cut). I’m not being ignorant, I just genuinely don’t hear a difference.

I think if I’m pretending the queen is saying “fuck off dear” I’m hearing fuck, but if I hear a cockney in my head it’s more “fack”, but are people saying “track” instead of truck? Do southerners hear “brack” instead of Bruck? “Fook” off would be more like moon to me. Foooooo-k (but not as long).

The girl's name is not Bruck. It's Brooke.

The name Brooke is pronounced differently in different places, just as the names already mentioned on this thread like Dave, Andy and William are pronounced differently in different places.

Would you expect a Scottish person saying Brooke to not use their instinctive rhotic R?

No, the OP is pronouncing the name as it is pronounced in her accent. The same as you would pronounce an American or French person's name in your accent.

It doesn't MATTER how it is usually pronounced in OPs accent, the girls name is Bruck, Op is perfectly capable of saying the word Bruck, she can call her Bruck.

If a French person told me their name was Pierre (Pee Air), I would repeat how they pronounced it to me, in my accent it probably wouldn't sound exactly the same but I wouldn't deliberately call them Pear or Peter because "that is how we say it in England".

I understand because I love Chris and Rosie Ramsey and I've heard them say cook book on their podcast 🤣

However Brooke and truck are still not the same in most English accents which I think is why people are so confused.

@sandyhappypeopleSo you would mimic somebody’s accent every time you find out someone’s name??
You would call someone Daayyvid instead of David? As that’s how they pronounced their name?
You would call some Peeta rather than Peter?
You would call an American lad called Carl Carrl because that’s how he introduced himself?
You would come across as mocking someone!

In southern English, yes, truck and "bruck" rhyme and it's exactly the same sound as a southerner saying "fuck."

again, you're going off the spelling only, if she INTRODUCED HERSELF as "Bruck", would you then say "nice to meet you Brooooke" .. and completely disregard what she has told you?

Or would you just call her "Bruck", seeing as you are perfectly capable of saying that word and you have no idea how she spells it?? She could spell her name as "Bruck" for all you know.

Why would you call her a different name to what she has told you her name is?

Please, pease, please don't claim anything about "most" English accents unless you've done a survey.

This audio clip and you and PP’s comments crack me up, because when I listen to that audio clip, I hear someone saying “bruck” in my (nw England) accent. I would pronounce Brooke exactly like this audio clip. And that’s what the OP means when she says “bruck”.

If someone introduced themselves to me by a name I recognised, I would call them by that name.

If they introduced themselves as (what i heard as) "Terreh", I would call them Terry.

If they introduced themselves as (what i heard as) "Will-yum", I would call them William.

If they introduced themselves as (what i heard as) "Bruck", I would call them Brooke.

I would not call them a different name to what they had told me their name was. I would use their name, but pronounce it in the way I pronounce that sound.

Yeah so that’s how I would say fuck too which rhymes with the way the Brooke Shields video pronounced Brooke.

Well, it isn't.

Two clearly different sounds.

You are wrong.

None of those instances are the same as what you do, because you change the pronunciation of it completely. Changing Carl to Carrl is just lingering on the R a little longer, it doesn't change the sound of the name.

If someone says their name is David, then I would say it how THEY say it:
If they pronounced it Dayyyvid, I'd say Dayvid (in my accent but with the emphasis on the Y), if they said DAHVID (I'd say it in my accent but emphasise the AH sound), if they said DAFFID, I'd (I'd say it in my accent but emphasise the AFF sound).

It's not about mimicking accents, it's about saying the name as they say it. it's about emphasising the letters in their name the same way they do, Brooke emphasises the UCK sound in her name, and I find it utterly baffling that you can't do it too?

But what if they told you their name wasn’t Terry but actually Terreh? You could still say Terreh in your accent, you’d just have to change the end sound from ee to eh?

Obviously not “clearly different sounds” since I, and many others on here, don’t hear them differently.

If their name was "Terreh", then I would call them "Terreh".

This person's name is "Brooke", so I would call them "Brooke".

Irish here and I agree with you.

But this person is telling you their name is Bruck. You’d still call them Brooke?

I don't think there are many people on here who can't hear the difference. (Who else?)

There are many people on here who can't articulate the difference in writing.