To think some posters can be a bit obtuse - especially when a thread isn’t soaked in modesty?

[ThatTipsyMaker]

It seems to happen more often when someone talks about money, achievement, weight loss or even their looks without apologising for it. If you’re not painfully modest or self-deprecating, suddenly people act like you’re bragging or delusional.

It feels like there’s a weird rule that you’re only allowed to share good things if you undercut yourself at the same time.

Is that just how online forums work or AIBU to think this is a very specific Mumsnet thing?

Just an British thing

I know it sounds comic, and some individual stuff absolutely was, but it just didn’t work at all. They returned home after about eighteen months because she never settled, became distressed and made a suicide attempt.

I love spending time in the US - the positivity and confidence is infectious. I also enjoy the random friendly chats!

I agree. It's British.
Germans are completely different. They just state things as they are and don't feel the need to add something self-deprecating on to the end like a lot of British people do. I found it odd at first (live in a German-speaking country but work in Germany). It comes across as being boastful, but it isn't actually, it's just the way it is.

Of course, not all Brits and not all Germans are like that, but it's something I've observed.

A lot of Mumsnetters go further and start shooting down anyone they consider to be boasting and that is a MN thing.

Oh no! I’m so sorry. When you said she nearly died, I didn't take that literally. I hope things improved afterwards for her x

exactly

gosh, how awful!

What sort of things? Pissing on someone’s (non-boastful) good fortune, good looks, good choices etc is one thing. Poking fun at a foolish grandstander is altogether different.

My favourite used to be a poster on Gifted & Talented who puffed up her ‘genius’ child till kingdom come. Thread after thread. Laughable.

The 'especially in women' bit is an important distinction.