Ive been with my partner for over 10 years . We have 3 kids together . He works a job which is very long hours which means a lot of time away from the family. Over the years he’s looked for other jobs got a job, accepted it, gone to leave and then retracted his notice. It’s been this cycle now for a while.
he drives I don’t. One of my kids wants to do a certain activity but one of my other kids do soenthing that clashes with that time so unless I pull out the other child , he can’t do it as I physically can’t be in two places at once. He’s been saying for weeks now this is it he’s going to leave his job and get a better one for the family to spend time with us more and to allow our child to be able to do said activity. Not even that just to be here more as 80% of his life is spent at work. He went for a job, got it, handed in his notice , told the kids and everyone who have all been super happy and said how much better it is for him and the kids. Yet here we go again, oh I might not leave now bla bla bla . Again.
This was his last chance to stop being selfish and put his family first and he messed it up again. Honestly I’m fed up with it. He is an adult. My child is not. My child’s life is only just starting so why should his life be put on hold cos his selfish twit of a dad chooses work over them every. Single. time.
where do I go from here? I get he wants to make ends meet but this new job is so much better in every way possible but for him it would be leaving his job. I must add I left my dream job and all what I created and worked my whole life towards to start a life with him. And he can’t even do the same for the benefit of his kids.
any advice anyone because I really think this is the end of the line. He can have his job. I’ll just make sure my kids don’t miss out anymore due to him and his work commitments! 😩