Neighbour kids driving me crazy help me pls

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please help me come up with what to say to deal with the neighbourhood kids. They’ve recently started calling for my son to play but problem is I can’t leave them to it as it’s constant fights and drama. All the kids are in primary school. Youngest 3, eldest 10. The parents are nowhere to be found and it’s left to me to supervise. My child is doing an exam soon and I want to focus the holidays on his exam. The kids are relentless they will keep doing the bell and banging on door till someone answers. I’m even in work some of days and my child is in camp but the knocking and door ringing continues! I get constant alerts on my ring doorbell.

1. if my son is studying and they keep knocking what shall I say? I rather have a neutral phrase rather than share he’s studying for an exam
2. they are often waiting for us in driveway if I give details like they’re in camp they will be home x time
3. shall I put a note on the door? My husband is getting annoyed as he’s working from home and these kids keep disturbing him during work calls

They are children, they won’t understand subtle.

Just say no he can’t play. ,

I’m even in work some of days and my child is in camp but the knocking and door ringing continues!

They are not at home, they are out for the whole day now please stop ringing the doorbell. Have you actually said this?

Talk to the eldest, find where they live, March them home, tell the adult looking after them that they are wandering the streets (annoying the fuck out of you) and disturbing your work. Or let your husband come out and roar at them.

You don’t need to give a reason, just say the child isn’t coming out, come back at the weekend or another day.

Get a ring doorbell and just say he’s not in through your phone. You don’t need to open the door.

Yes I’ve said those exact words but they ask what time we home and I tell them and they are waiting for us on the driveway.

How old is your child? Seems incredibly mean to force him to spend his entire holidays studying.

Anyway, locate the parents and speak to them.

I just feel a little weird when we are home and I’m creeping around as they’re outside banging and ringing the bell. I keep my curtains closed. I feel really annoyed they just don’t stop. Even yesterday I told them he’s at grandmas home and won’t be back till evening (true not a lie) and they kept coming back!

Am I reading this correctly? A 3YO is out wandering the streets with a 10YO supervising and the parents are nowhere to be seen? If that’s the case you should call social services and make a referral. I know that takes time so if they knock today march them straight home, tell the parents in no uncertain terms to get them to stop it because your kid is at camp and they’re disturbing your work.

You’re being way too passive though.
Creeping around, leaving passive aggressive notes.
Answer the door, tell them to go away and come back on Saturday.
If they come back during the day walk them to their home and explain to their parents they need to keep their child from hassling you.

My holidays haven’t started yet so he’s in summer camp most days so he’s doing very little studying if anything. We have activities booked too so when I’m on my summer break I’m planning to do a few hours a morning then activities in afternoon like sight seeing,

Not left any notes! Was asking if I should as husband on work calls and getting annoyed

just be stern and make yourself the person they don’t want to knock on. “Stop knocking on our door and ringing our bell” if. They don’t “take me to see your mum or dad please” and go round and speak to a parent and ask them to get their kids to stop constantly pestering you.

It sounds like you have somehow become the childminder for the local kids! As PPs have said, you don't need to give them a reason. Just tell them to bugger off and stop bothering you, if you feel you have to answer the door.
I would turn off the doorbell and ignore them, personally. They'll soon get bored and find a different place to be fed and entertained.

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A three year old won’t be able to read a note on the door and a 10 year old won’t be arsed too either……they simply want to hang out with your son.
The next time the knock-on, ask where they live and go see their parents, you know, the ones who are supposed to be responsible for them and looking after them, and explain all what’s going on. Make an arrangement as to when your son can play out with them………start talking……it’s called communication!!!!

My holidays haven’t started yet so he’s in summer camp most days so he’s doing very little studying if anything. We have activities booked too so when I’m on my summer break I’m planning to do a few hours a morning then activities in afternoon like sight seeing,

I do think you need to be more blunt with the children and say something along the lines of “ he won’t be playing today and please don’t knock again or I will need to take you back to your parents” However, does your ds want to play with these kids? In their annoying, kid like way they may be trying to rescue him from his joyless summer holiday. Camp, studying and sightseeing? When does he get some time to just let loose and be a kid?

I wonder if they have been foisted on you and they’re there simply because they have nowhere else to go. Their parents could be trying to get some free childcare through the back door. I think you or your DH need to take the kids back, tell the parents that your DS is only available on X day, and that their DC can’t hang around your house ringing the bell as you DH works from home and they’re interrupting him.

So don't tell them. Just say I don't know.

You’re not being anywhere stern enough. When they ask what time your child will be home, why on earth are you then replying with a time?!!

Just tell them to go away very sternly!

Do you know where they live? As I would be going and having a word with the parents to say it's nice that the children want your son to play, but that they are calling round frequently and even when you having explained your son is not there they are still ringing on the door.
Could they (the parents) please say to them that son will call for them when he is free and for them to stop calling.

Can you put a little ornament on your front step? Tell them if the ornament is out, they can ring or knock. If it's not, then don't ring the bell.

Tell them to fuck off or you're calling the social

Stop making your kid do exams in the holidays

We live on a very 90s feel estate, all the kids play with each, on the greenery outside but also in and out of each others houses, none of us mind, the kids love it. My son is the youngest so when he's playing they all come in my house/back garden, he's only 2. But sometimes when they knock I have to be stern and say "aw no sorry Henry's not playing today thanks for calling, come back tomorrow". Sometimes I see them playing in my front garden even when Henry's not there, again I don't mind, but if my DC are napping I'm straight outside "okay guys my kids are asleep can we all go and play somewhere else please, thank you". You have to tell them straight or they just don't get it.

Sorry he can’t come out today.
Sorry we are going out, no we don’t know when we will be back.

Sorry we have plans, he will knock for you when his able to play out.

repeat repeat

Come on op

you are the parent

you and your husband go to the door and you both say “enough. Now. Or I will have to speak to your parents”

is your son at his bedroom window though desperate to join them?