work/hobbies balance

[disneymum2025]

AIBU i have a 9 week old baby (1st time mum) and my partner works 12hr shifts and plays tennis. I have asked him to not arrange matches after work as I am struggling being on my own when he is working, my family can help but i need to go to them. He has 4 matches coming up in the next 2 weeks all of which are after work.
He doesn’t see anything wrong with playing in these. AIBU for getting upset and angry with him.

At that stage my dp cooked dinner every night, as I wasn’t managing. You need to do nothing for your dp at all, as he has a new baby and isn’t doing anything for them. And leave him with baby AND instructions re the house for a couple of hours the next evening he’s home- my turn I’m having a bath, you need to put baby to bed and clean up dinner. Then again on the weekend. ‘Why can’t you manage this? You’re a parent, you expect me to manage everything and I’m exhausted while you have the energy to spend hours at your hobby. A couple of hours parenting and helping around the house should be a breeze, youre clearly not exhausted.’

can you afford a mothers help? Not you, joint money or him. It should cost him to be so unavailable to his family.

I asked my DH to step back from hobbies for a while and he did. When I get my hobbies back, he gets his. It’s a partnership.