So I'm separated from my long term partner, nearly 25 years together and two later teens. Separated 2 years, initially on a trial basis but lived in the same house until relatively recently when the finances were finally sorted and he moved out but not very far away (practically neighbours). Complicated by the fact we still have some affectionate feelings for each other.
Unable to wait around forever I recently had a purely opportunistic and pretty meaningless ONS with a considerably younger guy, in his 30's, and I've just turned 49. Word got back to my ex OH, through my/our friend, parent of our teens' friends, with more detail than I probably should have shared. Apart from having a wry smile about it, ex OH doesn't seem overly bothered (I sort of wish he was), but here's the thing, my female friends (all married or in long term relationships), seem to think it's a big deal. Asking me if I thought I should have told ex OH, what would he think, what would the kids think etc.
I can't help but think she/they are jealous or have an agenda. Cards on the table, I'm perimenopausal, libido comes and goes (mostly goes), and when it does come around I want to make the most of it, and frankly it was damn good, satisfied a need at the time that made me feel 20 years younger!
AIBU to think I'm being judged as a woman, of a certain age, where a man of any age wouldn't be?