How to come to terms being alone

[gemgem57]

I have never had a serious partner. I just turned 40.
I have lovely family and some friends but they’re all sporadic.
I have a good job. I would say I’m a middle earner. Not that it matters but I see threads about this all the time on here.
Im just so excruciatingly lonely. All my childhood friends have moved on and gotten married and now have children.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t think of any clubs I’d like to join.
Is anyone feeling the same or can help somewhat?

Well, what do you want? Are you dating, or not? Or wanting more people in your life? Either way, it seems to me like you need different types of friends. I’m married with a child, but I have several good single, childfree friends in their 50s, and older friends whose children are well into adulthood, so freer.

I’ve been single for 27 years OP and this weekend I’m EXCRUCIATINGLY lonely. It’s horrible

Ive burnt my bridges with an online friend as I was feeling down

Well I know it’s hard but can you think of anyone you get on with casually to maybe have round for a cup of tea or a drink? Or can you make a point of going to a certain coffee shop regularly and get to know the staff? I have one like this and they now greet me as an old friend.
Anything to make a connection - I know we’re not all the outgoing type but sometimes you have to take the first step. My DM had a saying “He who would have friends must show himself friendly”.