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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 16:06

On holiday currently. Sat on sun lounger waiting for sunset taking photos with my DC (also older teens) There is about 10m between me and the water. There are free sunbeds either side of mine, it's reasonably quiet as we've chosen the end away from the bar etc., the beach is quite steep too behind us. We've literally been there all day.

A group came and sat on the sunbeds to the side/behind us and one (older teen) then stands directly between me/DC and the water at about 5m blocking my entire view taking photographs

Everyone speaks lots of different languages so no option to say 'shift it' or even 'please be considerate I'm trying to watch too'.

After about 3 or 4 mins so they'd had opportunity to take a photo i go and stand directly next to this person to take photos. My DC says IABU and dramatic particularly as it was a teen around their age that didn't realise/know better 🙄

The person did then go and sit down again but after 5 mins and the sun is down she does it again to photograph the red sky

What do you think? AIBU to think you shouldn't stand directly in front of another family group who are clearly watching the sunset on an almost empty beach?

UABU - stand where you like
UANBU - common decency says you don't stand directly in front of others if it's as I've described.

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Springadorable · 20/07/2025 19:29

This is mad. Of course they can stand on the beach. Get off your arse if you want to take a picture.

CaptainFuture · 20/07/2025 19:32

Were you stuck to the spot? You couldn't step to the side or move?

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:44

Springadorable · 20/07/2025 19:29

This is mad. Of course they can stand on the beach. Get off your arse if you want to take a picture.

But to stand directly Infront of someone on a practically empty beach is ok? So if I'd have scrambled onto the water/rocks I would be reasonable?

Why would they/I do that? Surely just being aware of others is fine..I'm talking a whole beach being clear either side of where I was sat.

IDo you really think I should I be the one to move ? Which is actually what I did by standing NEXT to them so not blocking their view/photo but my DC thought I was weird for doing exactly that?

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:46

CaptainFuture · 20/07/2025 19:32

Were you stuck to the spot? You couldn't step to the side or move?

I did. I stepped forward and next to them

Y question was should they have stood DIRECTLY in front me in the first place?
Who was unreasonable?

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KillerMounjaro · 20/07/2025 19:50

I’m can’t believe the other responses so far - I would be absolutely fucking livid!!

I really like my own space and I don’t know why people feel the need to come so close to people unnecessarily.

But especially when you are looking at something - to stand in front of you is so inconsiderate. Which a lot of people do seem to be these days.

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:51

I'll try and upload my photos. First is my original view. Them with the other person in my eye line.

This is a wide beach lots of straight bits and coves.
Potentially 1-5.km to my left.

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Laiste · 20/07/2025 19:52

10 meters from the waters edge is quite a long way back, to be honest. If you'd been more like 5 back they'd have prob stayed to one side.

I get that it's annoying when folk are spacialy unaware but i'm this case i think they could be forgiven for not seeing/caring what you were doing.

randomlemonsheep · 20/07/2025 19:53

Springadorable · 20/07/2025 19:29

This is mad. Of course they can stand on the beach. Get off your arse if you want to take a picture.

who the hell stands in front of someone on an beach, and a quiet one?

You think anyone is interested in looking at your arse? Move! Why coming close to anyone is already a question in itself 😂

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:53

KillerMounjaro · 20/07/2025 19:50

I’m can’t believe the other responses so far - I would be absolutely fucking livid!!

I really like my own space and I don’t know why people feel the need to come so close to people unnecessarily.

But especially when you are looking at something - to stand in front of you is so inconsiderate. Which a lot of people do seem to be these days.

Thank you.

Really and genuinely not looking for validation

I'm more annoyed by my DC felt she was ok to do what she did and that I shouldn't have stood next to her and just accepted she wanted MY view.

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randomlemonsheep · 20/07/2025 19:55

Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:51

I'll try and upload my photos. First is my original view. Them with the other person in my eye line.

This is a wide beach lots of straight bits and coves.
Potentially 1-5.km to my left.

your only option is to get up and take photos I am afraid. They are completely wrong, but no point letting them ruin your evening.

Why would anyone even want to be in the photos, when it's clear you are taking some, is beyond me anyway. People are weird.

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:56

Laiste · 20/07/2025 19:52

10 meters from the waters edge is quite a long way back, to be honest. If you'd been more like 5 back they'd have prob stayed to one side.

I get that it's annoying when folk are spacialy unaware but i'm this case i think they could be forgiven for not seeing/caring what you were doing.

Edited

A car length is 3m. They wasn't much further that that from me. I was sat on a sunbed. They were stood up

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SallyD00lally · 20/07/2025 19:56

Everyone speaks lots of different languages so no option to say 'shift it' or even 'please be considerate I'm trying to watch too'.

Oh come off it.

'Excuse me' with a friendly smile and gesture to step to the side a bit would've been perfectly understandable.

Strawberries86 · 20/07/2025 20:00

I don’t understand the responses, you’re watching a sunset on an empty beach, standing in front of you is bizarre. They are there for the very view they are blocking you from. People are twats.

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 20:02

SallyD00lally · 20/07/2025 19:56

Everyone speaks lots of different languages so no option to say 'shift it' or even 'please be considerate I'm trying to watch too'.

Oh come off it.

'Excuse me' with a friendly smile and gesture to step to the side a bit would've been perfectly understandable.

So she was ok to stand in front of me?

Was I wrong and creating a drama by standing NEXT to her? My DC think I was and should have just accepted it.

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SallyD00lally · 20/07/2025 20:09

Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 20:02

So she was ok to stand in front of me?

Was I wrong and creating a drama by standing NEXT to her? My DC think I was and should have just accepted it.

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So she was ok to stand in front of me?

How did you get that ^^ from me saying she would've understood you politely gesturing for her to move?

No you weren't creating a drama by simply standing next to her.

However, I suspect there was more to it for you DC to accuse you of that.

KillerMounjaro · 20/07/2025 20:09

Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:53

Thank you.

Really and genuinely not looking for validation

I'm more annoyed by my DC felt she was ok to do what she did and that I shouldn't have stood next to her and just accepted she wanted MY view.

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My DC (slightly unfortunately for me!) would be even more cross than me and would actually shout at them to move!

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 20/07/2025 20:18

A similar thing happen to me. I was in a Church with my long lens Nikon, planning on taking some close ups of the transubstantiation when, bugger me, if some Nuns didn't go and plonk themselves slap down in front of me for the same purpose. Bastards.

It's not like I go often, (generally births, death and marriages if I can be bothered), whilst they, THEY go every bleeding day.
Brides of Christ? Brides of Godzilla more like.

But I'm not bitter.

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Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 20:28

SallyD00lally · 20/07/2025 20:09

So she was ok to stand in front of me?

How did you get that ^^ from me saying she would've understood you politely gesturing for her to move?

No you weren't creating a drama by simply standing next to her.

However, I suspect there was more to it for you DC to accuse you of that.

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There genuinely wasn't more to it.

A few minutes earlier a child of about 8 or 9 was playing on the rocks. My older DC grumbled this child would be in the photos and I said tough. Young kids on a beach are to be expected.

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Springadorable · 20/07/2025 21:00

You are so far from the sea. It wouldn't occur to me to not stand in front of you so that you may or may not take the odd snap. It's mad people think it's normal to own the beach between them and the tide. PSA - you don't.

SagittariusDwarf · 20/07/2025 21:04

I'd assume someone 10m away from the sea at sunset probably wasn't all that arsed about watching the sunset. Probably wouldn't have stood directly in front of you, if I'd noticed you were there which these people might not have done

Givenupshopping · 20/07/2025 21:06

Sunsetwatcher · 20/07/2025 19:53

Thank you.

Really and genuinely not looking for validation

I'm more annoyed by my DC felt she was ok to do what she did and that I shouldn't have stood next to her and just accepted she wanted MY view.

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OP, I hope you realise that if your kid thinks that what this kid did was OK, the chances are that they would do the same thing, as they obviously don't see your point of view. Maybe you need to give them a lesson in manners too?

For what it's worth, I'd have been mad in your place, and would probably have gone and stood about 2 foot in front of the inconsiderate girl, to take my pictures and make the point.

EmeraldRoulette · 20/07/2025 21:08

@Sunsetwatcher i'm with you

Why would someone stand in front of you on an empty beach? These responses are mad.

Springadorable · 20/07/2025 21:10

EmeraldRoulette · 20/07/2025 21:08

@Sunsetwatcher i'm with you

Why would someone stand in front of you on an empty beach? These responses are mad.

Because they are lying on a sun lounger as they have been all day not paying attention?

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