Newborn sleep

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posting on AIBU for any traffic please!
I appreciate that my 3 week old baby needs a lot of food and that this is probably just cluster feeding but I am soooo in need of some sleep.

She has been feeding constantly since 10:30pm tonight and it’s now 4:30am. She might fall asleep very briefly on the boob or when I put her into her crib but the longest has been for 25 minutes and most attempts have failed within a few minutes - with her just wriggling and then crying, turning into a scream.

I am desperate for some sleep. She’s clusterfed on other nights but it’s been possible to settle her after feeding, and eventually get some sleep after 3-4 hours.

You need to take shifts with partner. Can you express some milk for her for during partner's shift?
Whoever is off duty sleeps in another room with earplugs for at least 4 hours then swap.
You need to get some sleep to function and baby will have periods where she won't sleep.

It’s really unfortunate because milk production is at its highest during the nighttime so often is when newborns cluster feed, it is horrendous the sleep deprivation!! Can you co sleep safely? I also never used a dummy but wish I had because I suspect my baby would have got back to sleep settled with a dummy a fair amount of times instead of my boob, saying that 3 weeks is so young they are most likely trying to get your milk supply up. It’s hard xx

If you can’t sleep at night then you get to sleep in the day. DH or whoever has the baby and brings to you when she needs a feed, then takes straight back away again. Its hard but it will get better, just do whatever to get through now x

Co sleeping was my best friend with my first who was exactly like this, look up how to do it safely and snatch as many hours as you can throughout the night. In the day get someone to take over and really catch up. It does get better as the weeks go on but I completely understand that right now even 48 hours can seem a lifetime away x

Thank you all so much - I posted in desperation and she actually finally got off to sleep 10 minutes later but I really appreciate the reassurance.