I need some perspective because I'm honestly at my wit's end. We have an 18-month-old child and I do pretty much everything when it comes to caring for her — feedings, naps, putting her to bed, comforting her through multiple night wakings (she doesn’t sleep through the night yet) and more. I haven’t had a proper night’s sleep since she was born. My husband sleeps in a separate room because of this.
He works full-time, and while he does play with her sometimes, I’m the one managing all the day-to-day care.
Lately (or honestly, for quite a while), he's constantly making comments and criticising what I do. For example, I was handing our toddler a slice of pizza at the table, and he goes, “Give her some space.” Then I step into the kitchen, come back, and he has another comment ready. This happens a lot — little digs or unsolicited advice, said like he's the expert, even though he’s not the one doing the bulk of the work.
Another time, she hadn’t eaten since lunch (which had been over six hours earlier) and I said I’d offer her some food again. He said, “There’s no point, she’s not hungry.” Of course, she was hungry and ate well. But he says things like this often and it drives me mad. He brushes it off like it’s no big deal, but it feels like he's constantly undermining me or questioning my judgment.
Meanwhile, when she’s with him and doesn’t eat, it doesn’t seem to bother him at all. But for me, I care — I want to make sure she eats and is well cared for.
I try to brush it off, but sometimes I completely lose it and get really mad. It just feels so unfair and exhausting.
So, my question is: Am I being unreasonable for getting this upset when he makes these kinds of comments?
Thanks