To be able to drive on my own holiday?

[UndoRedo]

Off to Cornwall for a week holidays, taking my two DC, DSs gf, and had invited my partner. We don't live together but been tog some years.

Long drive there and back and initially he offered his car which is bigger than mine. But it's had some issues so he mentioned the other week he was going to hire a larger car. All good, offered up my licence details.

He's now saying that he's thinking of asking to borrow a car off a relative of his, but I would be unable to drive it.

The idea of a week away without the ability to go out by myself or for some of us to do something whilst others stayed home winds me up. I know I'd resent it. Plus should be able to share the driving there and back

Renting a car with one driver is 250ish, with another 150 for an additional driver. Tempted to just book a car with me as driver at this point

I'm annoyed he's changing the plans. I've paid for all the accommodation costs plus will be buying food etc.

Aibu?

throw this one back in the gutter - too many red flags already and it’s only early days!!!

Why is driving your own car not an option, with him as a passenger?

Fuck him off by UNinviting him. Hire the vehicle you want

Leave him at home and use your own car.

Unfortunately it's only comfortable for 3 or 4 with luggage, not 5 with bags for a week

If you were going to takeyour car in the first place then just go with yours like you were going to

Also you are assuming you cant get around without a car. You're probably right because its Cornwall but have you checked, or has the relatives car got scope to have a bike rack on it and you take a bike with you?

What do you mean early days?

Insist on the hire car. Borrowing a car is unappealing and inconvenient for you, so he's got to scrap that idea.

I think this depends on your budget, as a group.

It seems a lot of extra money to be spending, on the off chance that you wanted to drive somewhere, without him, during the 5 days you will be there.

Can’t you get temporary car insurance on the relatives car and be happy he will do the majority of the driving?

He's talking about giving his relative some money to cover the inconvenience, although he hasn't actually asked them yet!

He had said that since I've paid for all the accommodation, this was going to be part of his contribution.

Not ideal but if you can’t pay to hire a bigger car then take yours too. I wouldn’t want to necessarily insure someone else on my car either. Once you’ve down there and have no luggage you can use one car for days out.

Tell him he either hires the car - with you as a named driver - as his contribution, or you’ll take your own car and he doesn’t come.

I wouldn’t want to be unable to drive on holiday either. Makes you feel very controlled and helpless.

Just say no you will take your car (presumably you would take it if partner not coming)

You take your car for the 4 of you, he can then borrow his relatives car or whatever other permutation of car he is suggesting.

He seems to be dithering about with different suggestions and not committing to any, which is leaving you with a big unknown in your plans.

So you just sort you out, and leave him to fanny about and sort his own transport. Then you have 2 cars there if you want to do different things, or without luggage you could probably fit 5 in either car, so maximum flexibility.

Two cars. Yours and whatever he drives. In fairness this is your holiday and he is tagging along like your son’s girlfriend.