Son and new girlfriend

[Mum3050]

Son 23 left uni lived with me rent free for last year now has a girlfriend he met online from spain excellent seems OK in theory all for living your best life, quit his job in retail and is now flitting between Manchester and hers u till she starts university in Sept, very intense quick relationship , son has money from a inheritance very good chunk from dead grandparents, so money isn't a issue at living between hotels in Manchester and seeing her at her house, in Spain.
We literally have met her for five minutes, they are "" popping in tomorrow "" for clean clothes and bits before departure back to Manchester, yes he's 23 can do as he wishes and is financed himself but to suddenly quit work for this girl move away and be paying to set up home without even a job to start am I been over caucious and worrying or do I let him live his life I've voiced the be careful etc etc your always welcome back etc but the fact they stay with her parents etc etc yet we get ten mins hello that's it I find upsetting, apparently she is shy am I been harsh expecting her to visit we good few hours from Manchester last thing I want is to fall out with much loved adult son.
To add she is 21 doesn't work has wealth family but concern my son is financially doing all this

Led by his dick. Let him get on with it.

To be honest I’d say the problem is he hasn’t had to work to earn his money. Obviously nothing you can do but I’d guess the money is making him think all is easy and he can do what he wants at the moment. I don’t know that there’s anything you can do really (but you’ll hopefully get better advice). To be honest it depends on their relationship, their ideas on what they want to do with their lives and their personalities

I don't understand where Manchester comes in? Her home is in Spain, DS has a home with you, so why is he paying to stay in hotels in Manchester with her rather than alternate between her folks in Spain and your home?

She is going to Manchester uni and they going to set up home their together, I think it's first time girlfriend and he's jumped right in head first, we dont even know her last name🤔🤣

Inheritance shouldn't be accessible for anything other than education before age 25 I think'! Hope he doesn't waste it all away!

Saying that though it's better than him being single and spending this all on lads lads lads drugs and hookers! Hopefully she's a nice girl and will encourage him to be sensible

Unfortunately, this is the way with Son's. The old saying is GENERALLY true : " a daughter is a daughter all her life, a son is a son till he gets himself a wife" This is the way it is im afraid. Agree with other posts. You really have to get on with it. Another old saying is often true " love walks out the door, when money flies our of the window". When his money runs out. Then you will see the true colours. Let him get on with it.

Silly boy.
Sounds like he intends to blow his inheritance on living the good life.
He will bitterly regret his stupidity.
No university?
Retail work?
Not the brightest is he?
Blowing his chance for a bit of security on living it up with her.
Lives with her parents and only 10 minutes to pop in?
Are you sure her parents are wealthy if he is funding a flat for her at university?