Is this acceptable?

[Burtrix7]

A quick query to settle an argument. Is it ok to say your 9 year old child is acting like a knob when he is in earshot?

Thanks in advance.

I wouldn't be bothered by it.. I've told my kids to quit being a jerk when they're being a jerk.

Totally. Believe me, said 9yr old uses far more colourful language than that at school.

This is not suitable language to use about a child when they are in earshot.

Not really, no

Yep. Our only house rule was 'don't be a knob'.

It covered everything. Just don't behave like a knob and we'll all get along fine.

Who the hell is voting that this is ok?! That's the kind of shit that kids remember!

Right?!

Personally, I don’t think it’s okay to name call at all (especially not names with such connotations usually reserved for adults). But that’s just me!

Told my 7 year old grandson he was being an ass earlier - he was! His response? He laughed and said nanny said a naughty word.

No I wouldn’t let my child hear me saying that.

Woah. .

Now imagine yourself being called a knob. Now imagine hearing one of your parents telling the other they think you're a knob. Different.

No not ok

It's not ideal...

Would the child understand the nuance of 'You're a knob' v "You're acting like a knob'

I do not like slang words for female genitalia being used as an insult. I think it is mysogenistic. By the same token the I don't think people should compared to make genitals.

I wouldn't use that language in front of a child, because I wouldn't want them repeating it. It's a disgusting word. Aside from that, addressing the behaviour directly to the child would be better than talking about them in their hearing.

Even though it was true, my DH has never really forgiven me for calling our children spoilt, selfish arseholes.

Apparently, I'm not allowed to speak negatively about them.

FYI - children are now young adults. Husband calls them bitches etc all the time & that's OK..

It's ok, as long as you don't mind them repeating it.

If that’s the accepted language of the house and it was said in a joking fashion. Depends on the context & the type of relationship they have. My daughter would laugh and call me a knob if I ever act like one. I wouldn’t call her one in an aggressive tone or if I was upset/disappointed by her. Never. Only ever when we’re being lighthearted.

No it’s not. If you have a problem with your child’s behaviour you need to manage it with the child. If you need to vent about your child you do it out of earshot