To think that they should have put their hands in their pockets!

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Husband and I went out for dinner with a group of friends not too long ago. We picked up the bill as a treat and it was as expensive - £600. We hadn’t seen our friends in long time and ordered champagne, cocktails and lots of lovely food.

The next time we went out with them, bill came to under £100. They didn’t offer to pay and were visibly annoyed when we didn’t at first offer to pay.

AIBU to find this terrible manners?

You really don't know the answer to this??

I think large amounts of context needs to be added here to be able to comment.

We go out for dinner with friends loads. I have never offered to pay for everyone and neither has anyone else, so that isn't a dynamic that I am familiar with.

Pay once, never pay again.

Well they’re using you aren’t they? Cheeky fuckers.

So they wanted you to pay the whole £100 or split?

Who invited whom?

And what’s the make up of the group (you said a group of friends)?

Were you expecting them all to divide it between them if for another oerson/couple from the group to pay for everyone?

Very bad manners. Who did pay in the end ?
Next time, if there is a next time, divide it between everyone. 2 couples 50/50. 3 couples third each etc.etc.

So did they assume you were paying because you paid last time? Or did you assume they would pay because you paid last time,?
Both are wrong, last time was your treat. You offered, they accepted. This time unless one of you had offered to treat it’s a split the bill situation.

I've paid for quite a few dinners in my time, but I have never been in a position where it was expected - not once. I know I'd remember.

Your friends' values are seriously off kilter - "entitled" is the word that comes to mind. But this is a brutal economic downturn and maybe the idiots accepted knowing they couldn't foot the bill. We can't even afford a bloody take away at the moment (thank you Liz, nice one Rishi, well done Rachel), so I couldn't have accepted either invitation. You'd be posting a different AIBU if you'd invited us!!!

These people are not your friends…