To find it strange that this friend always says this?

[Panther40]

Every single time something slightly or more unfortunate happens to this friend, she says she hopes the same never happens to me.
It's just a bit strange and almost seems disingenuous, I'm sure she means well but there's something odd about it.

For instance, her washing machine broke. She said 'I hope your washing machine never breaks!"

She had something like tonsillitis and said 'I hope you never get tonsillitis!'

Then I think she got paid slightly late and said 'I hope you never get paid late!' Each time I just say thank you, I don't know why I just find it disingenuous.
Or am I just being ungrateful? I have my bad luck too but I don't say that to her every single time.

Perfect! 😂

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Weird, just tell her, say why do you always say that?

People do this to emphasize their own trauma in order to garner sympathy! They have a tendency to self-pity, hence the need to highlight their plight! Basically, attention seekers!

This. Only a deeper issue if you try and tell her often how hard your life is and she’s subtly trying to tell you otherwise?

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I’m not sure you know what disingenuous means.

what do think she is meaning by these comments ?

Ironically, "it's not that deep," could apply to the OP's question.

It's a bit odd but she's wishing you well so I would just say "thank you" or "same" or something like that.

No it’s annoying when someone says the same stupid phrase over and over again. I have a friend who always says “it’s not good”

eg: “I broke my leg - it’s not good”
“I’ve lost my job, it’s not good”
“See that murder on the news? It’s not good”

of course it’s not fucking “good”

Yeah this was my thought, I’d wonder if she has OCD and believes she needs to do the ritual of saying this, as otherwise if the bad thing happens to you it’s her fault.

If it was a response to you seemingly minimising her plight, then maybe she was a bit annoyed?

Like she says 'my washing machine broke' and you reply with 'oh, I find it really fun washing clothes by hand. It's not that big a deal..'
Then her response could be to try and say 'I don't think you understand my predicament and if it happened to you you wouldn't say that..'

If it's nothing like that and she just says it independently, I'd say it's just a harmless turn of phrase. And she means it sincerely.

I see what you mean, but she says it before I've even replied if that makes sense.

So for example the text said, my washing machine broke today, that was really annoying. I hope yours never does that!

She seems to be pretty anxious/insecure.

Maybe she feels she needs to references you directly so she isnt just sending you random updates. She may feel she’s bringing you in to the scenario by including you so you’re more likely to respond 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tbh if it were me, I just wouldn’t acknowledge the annoying part that she always tags on at the end. So instead of saying ‘thank you’ just only acknowledge the issue itself eg, ‘sorry that happened, let me know if you need to use mine whilst you get yours sorted’.