Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask what you think to this school new rule?

385 replies

Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 19:35

Just heard from other parents that apparently they’ll be reducing the amount of water y2 and upwards can have next year. So limiting the amount of times they can access their water bottle. This is because they’re only allowed to go to the toilets at breaks/lunch and it’s to limit toileting accidents in the classroom.

OP posts:
Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 17/07/2025 22:40

TwoPointOh · 17/07/2025 22:18

Of course they can. Confused I can’t go to the toilet when I want in my job.

I can think of loads of jobs where you can’t go to the toilet whenever you want. Teachers for an start! Even office jobs I’ve had in the past time you and record how often you go during in working hours instead of breaks.

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 22:41

EggnogNoggin · 17/07/2025 20:25

The other unpopular thing to point out is how many kids have unnecessary dental caries because they won't drink plain water and the constant exposure to sugar is damaging.

So wait... what? Sugar damages teeth?

Welikebeingcosy · 17/07/2025 22:43

TheCurious0range · 17/07/2025 22:17

What about if you're a police officer, a prison officer, work in court, maybe you're a surgeon or a train driver, do you think you can just nip to the toilet whenever you like?

Pretty sure I've seen videos of surgeons having a straw from a carton of ribena held into their mouth for them during surgery.

saraclara · 17/07/2025 22:43

Biscoffscoffer · 17/07/2025 22:38

I wouldn't be happy with that. Surely if they drink less they'll be prone to uti which would make them want to go to the toilet more regardless of whether they have any wee or not.

Yep, when I was a kid in the 60s and 70s, and my kids were kids in the 90s and 00s, we all had UTIs constantly from only being able to drink every 90 minutes or so.
Except we didn't.

TheCurious0range · 17/07/2025 22:45

Welikebeingcosy · 17/07/2025 22:43

Pretty sure I've seen videos of surgeons having a straw from a carton of ribena held into their mouth for them during surgery.

My comment was about going to the toilet, not drinking, in response to another poster's comment that employers can't tell you when you can and can't go

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 22:45

Annony331 · 17/07/2025 20:29

Like anything it depends on what problem they are facing.

Is water consumption being used to interfere with teaching, are certain children gathering. Is there a bullying issue, is where the water is accessed difficult to monitor. Are children interfering with others water or bringing in contraband that puts others with allergies at risk, is poor behaviour an issue, are some children targeting others? Then is there a toilet issue again interfering with teaching, an issue with bullying or damage across school. Is there a safeguarding issue? Is there child on child abuse. Water fights or situations that build to other issues, vaping?

When you introduce a new rule or change something it is in response to an issue. We need more information

Are you sure you haven't left anything out?

Neverlookback32 · 17/07/2025 22:45

Children have very little autonomy in school.
One of the many reasons I home educate.

saraclara · 17/07/2025 22:45

I taught for nearly forty years, only able to drink and go to the loo at break and lunchtime, and yet never had a UTI or became unwell with dehydration. It must be some kind of superpower.

Welikebeingcosy · 17/07/2025 22:47

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 22:45

Are you sure you haven't left anything out?

🤣🤣🤣 Need that laugh emoji back

saraclara · 17/07/2025 22:47

Neverlookback32 · 17/07/2025 22:45

Children have very little autonomy in school.
One of the many reasons I home educate.

If you home educated 30 kids at a time, you'd soon cut down in their autonomy.

Oddly enough, working adults don't have a whole lot of autonomy either. That's life.

Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 22:47

Can I just say, I’m not over reacting, I don’t really have much opinion at the moment. I’m just asking what others think for opinions because it’s new to me. DD is going into y2 in September. There’s a ‘WhatsApp group’ and lots of mums are on there complaining about it amongst themselves. (I am not on it.)

OP posts:
Redsatin109 · 17/07/2025 22:48

I have the same experience, only drank from water fountains at school, never took a water bottle.

OP posts:
Nt23 · 17/07/2025 22:48

Blank1234 · 17/07/2025 20:13

There’s always one …

I'm a teacher, trust me, there's always more than one!

EggnogNoggin · 17/07/2025 22:48

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 22:41

So wait... what? Sugar damages teeth?

It does! But apparently shitloads of parents don't because it continues to be on the increase in kids despite people supposedly being aware 🤔

Weird, right?

Hankunamatata · 17/07/2025 22:49

Any chance kids are playing with waterbottles, knocking them over, chucking them at each other?

VehicleTracker77 · 17/07/2025 22:50

This reply has been deleted

This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

chillidoritto · 17/07/2025 22:55

Good on the school I say! At the high school I work at, all drinks must stay in bags, for reasons that many others have cited. They can be filled at break and dinner only.

We are one of “those schools” that doesn’t allow kids to go to the toilets during lessons (bar medical reasons or a genuine reason - ie kid is obviously desperate). Sadly that rule had to be introduced because most visits to the toilet were just to get out of lessons / meet up with friends / go on phones.

Neverlookback32 · 17/07/2025 22:56

saraclara · 17/07/2025 22:47

If you home educated 30 kids at a time, you'd soon cut down in their autonomy.

Oddly enough, working adults don't have a whole lot of autonomy either. That's life.

Which is exactly why a classroom environment isnt ideal for many children. Not being allowed to use the toilet? Or have a drink when thirsty?
Its so bad for children to hold a full bladder or bowel. A lot of children have overactive bladders or suffer anxiety in the absence of an accessible toilet.
And I have never worked anywhere where im not allowed to use the toilet or have a drink if im thirsty. And I dont know anyone that does. Teachers seem to always have a mug of something on their desks all day long. They can dismiss themselves for bathroom breaks. Your point is invalid.

pontipinemum · 17/07/2025 22:57

My DC aren't at that age yet so I might change my opinion. But I don't think they need them all day long. It was the 00s when I went to school we were not allowed to have drinks in class. We were allowed to go to the toilet if we really needed to but it wasn't really allowed.

DS is now 3 he is constantly making me stop the car because he 'has' to pee. He hardly ever does have to it's just something to do. I can absolutely see him needing the loo constantly as an excuse to get out of the class room.

Like when we were kids and would spend ages sharpening pencils at the bin

Vitrolinsanity · 17/07/2025 22:57

Well, when you have half the class doing the water bottle challenge rather than maths, you may think differently.

Isittimeformynapyet · 17/07/2025 23:01

souter · 17/07/2025 21:17

As others have said it depends on how they are implementing it. No access to water for long periods of time, is not ok, but telling children they can’t go during the teacher input, or during assembly is perfectly fine and stops disruption. If anything it teaches children to manage their water intake.
It never ceases to amaze me how riled some people get about this. I once had a parent threaten me with governors/ Ofsted etc because I didn’t let them have a drink when they asked. Apparently their child having to sit through a 15 assembly without a drink was ‘against their human rights’, even though they were reminded to have a drink before they went and could have one as soon as they returned to class!

I agree with you, but are we really calling lessons "teacher input" now?

saraclara · 17/07/2025 23:02

Neverlookback32 · 17/07/2025 22:56

Which is exactly why a classroom environment isnt ideal for many children. Not being allowed to use the toilet? Or have a drink when thirsty?
Its so bad for children to hold a full bladder or bowel. A lot of children have overactive bladders or suffer anxiety in the absence of an accessible toilet.
And I have never worked anywhere where im not allowed to use the toilet or have a drink if im thirsty. And I dont know anyone that does. Teachers seem to always have a mug of something on their desks all day long. They can dismiss themselves for bathroom breaks. Your point is invalid.

A teacher can walk out, leaving their class unsupervised, to go to the toilet? No they can't.

TwoPointOh · 17/07/2025 23:03

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 17/07/2025 22:38

But the children are not any of those things, they are children, in a school.

I feel like you may have been out of the classroom and in the toilets when debating was being taught at your school.

BogRollBOGOF · 17/07/2025 23:07

Another survior of 80-90s education on a drink (200ml?) at breakfast, a sip/ glug from the fountain in the toilets at break, a small cup on the lunch tray (150ml?) at lunch and that was that until home time.
I avoided school milk as much as I could get away with too Envy

Children weren't floundering with dehydration and nothing significant has changed since then to make constant access to bottles an essential part of survival to children without specific health concerns. Having a bottle avaliable to drink more at suitable intervals is a fair middle ground, but it doesn't have to be constant.

Bottles can be mis-used for disruptive and evasive behaviour. In my youth group, if it's a bit of a dry, talky badgework night, it's funny how much more the children drift off to the corner with the bottles, and how many more toilet requests we have compared to more active, engaging nights. And these are children that want to be there. In schools, it can be far worse, and it is reasonable for schools to manage access to water to cut disruption and off-task behaviour.

Neverlookback32 · 17/07/2025 23:07

saraclara · 17/07/2025 23:02

A teacher can walk out, leaving their class unsupervised, to go to the toilet? No they can't.

Obviously they can't leave children unsupervised. But they absolutely are allowed to use the toilet if they need to, as long as they arrange for another staff member to supervise while they go. There are often teaching assistants in most primary classes anyway.