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Neighbours

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thebluehen · 17/07/2025 15:00

I own a small end terrace house on a 1980's estate. I bought it to rent out. When my 20 relationship ended last year, I moved in to this house. I had been living with my partner in a huge detached 18th century house with an acre of land. It was always going to take some adjustment to go back to town living, but my neighbour has made the whole experience somewhat more miserable than I expected.

She is a single Mum to 2 primary school aged children. She has a variety of male "friends" (as she describes them). They smoke weed right outside my front door. She drops litter from her car onto the floor and leaves it there. She has 3 dogs that are constantly barking and never walked. Her kids have an alexa in the garden which is screamed at continuously. She allows her visitors to park in an area that is meant for car turning meaning everyone is having to do 23 point turns to access their car parking space. She swears constantly using the f and c word in the garden for the whole estate to hear, her "friends" are the same. She leaves her kids until the early hours whilst she is in the pub and all weekend every weekend. Her kids play out and are often in my front garden (open plan) shouting and screaming. One of her male "friends" has several restraining orders against him against nice women who have crossed him in a professional capacity. She holds a position of authority locally and has abused it for her own gain but nothing has been done about it. She privately rents but I am too frightened to report her to anyone based on how her and her friends behave. I live alone with my dog and feel vulnerable.

I am going to sell up and find somewhere else to live once I have got myself sorted out. It has really not helped with the process of moving on with my life.

I am terrified of moving somewhere else and getting the same thing though!

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FrenchandSaunders · 17/07/2025 15:01

How?

FrenchandSaunders · 17/07/2025 15:02

Have you posted too soon? so much missing

thebluehen · 17/07/2025 15:11

Sorry, posted too soon - updated now.

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Rainbows41 · 17/07/2025 15:14

Sell - as soon as you can

kittensinthekitchen · 17/07/2025 16:21

Wow, was she like this before you moved in? Did any previous tenants never mention her anti social behaviour?

I'm confused why you would mention shouting an at Alexa before casually dropping in that she leaves her young children at home all weekend though.

thebluehen · 17/07/2025 16:31

My tenants hadn't complained, which is a surprise, to be honest! I was just listing things, not in any particular order of importance. There is plenty more, bins never brought in, garden covered in dog mess, general screaming and shouting, rubbish at the front of the house. I have seriously considered reporting her for the neglect of the children but I am genuinely too scared of the repercussions.

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Isxmasoveryet · 17/07/2025 16:45

So reading this Ur ok with kids being left alone every weekend but not ok with swearing and shouting T Alexia

Kosenrufugirl · 17/07/2025 17:01

You must feel very vulnerable after the break up of a long term relationship, I am not surprised you feel scared.

I suggest you contact your Member of Parliament and ask for help. Describe the problem however mention your fears of retaliation and ask it to be kept confidential at this stage.

I have been to both Labour and Conservative MPs with my problems over the years. I always got good help and it's free.

You will have to disclose any issues with the neighbours during the house sale. It sounds like these neighbours could cost you a lot of money if you decide to sell. If you never complain and say nothing to the other party's solicitors you could still be liable as it's the problem you couldn't not to know about. It's worth sorting it out.

Contact your MP to start with. I once spent 7 months chasing our neighbour's landlord to replace a dodgy gas cooker. He wouldn't spend the money even after the gas engineers have been called twice. It was all done and dusted 2 weeks after I emailed my MP

PeopleWatching17 · 01/09/2025 18:48

Isxmasoveryet · 17/07/2025 16:45

So reading this Ur ok with kids being left alone every weekend but not ok with swearing and shouting T Alexia

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

Suusue · 01/09/2025 19:32

Just move asap. Buy the worse house in the most expensive area you can afford. Just get out.

thebluehen · 02/09/2025 15:28

Update on this. I reported to social services, crime stoppers and her landlord. Things have got much, much worse including blatant drug use in front of the children and the children left all night. Hopefully someone will help the children and the landlord will deal with the numerous complaints from
neighbours.

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