So stressed at 38 weeks pregnant and building work, am I being crazy?

[Yats17]

Hi,

I don't know if this is hormones or not, but I'm just sitting here crying as baby due in 2 weeks, we have building work to get a small bedroom ready for the baby. I've been chasing and sorting all this mostly myself as DH is busy with work and I usually do this. But now im just falling to pieces.

Stupid window ordered from a company called Just Value Doors 2 months ago, website said 2-3 weeks lead times typically, 4 weeks after order I finally get through to someone who says actually delivery will be another 4 weeks (ie this week while im 38 weeks pregnant) and its not even turned up! They say maybe next week now, and builder may turnup to fit it then but he's got other commitments now so even if it does turn up next week we might have to wait until October for it to be fitted.

DH says we just have to wait and see. But I am just so fed up with this shit company who won't give us a refund, keep taking down my bad online reviews, and the fact i feel like ive been dealing with all this shit on my own for weeks on end.

The house is no where near ready for a baby and I just want to scream.

Is this hormones? Or normal? I cant tell anymore what is in my head :(

Come on op.

Baby won't need s room straightaway.

It does sound incredibly stressful, especially when you’re pregnant. I had a nightmare with Anglian windows. Would not recommend.

However baby doesn’t need their own room straight away.

Maybe take pressure off yourself to have this room sorted. Guidance says that babies should sleep in the same room as you for 6 months, so you have until early next year to get the room sorted at a minimum.

Fully agree that the company is shit and you're right to be annoyed with them for failing to deliver. But there's no need for tears that the room isn't ready for the baby yet, given it won't be sleeping in it until 2026. Admittedly we had our nursery decorated before our baby was born, just to get it done (though DH just did it himself), but it is now basically a complete tip (baby is 6 weeks old) as we use it to dump any gifts or hand me downs we've been given that we don't currently need. It'll need another full overhaul before it's usable; I'll cross that bridge in December time. In a couple of weeks m you're going to be totally consumed with nappies and feeding, the state of your house will be very low down the list of priorities. Trust me, I'm living it as we speak!

Thanks all, I feel a bit calmer today, I think its a mix of pregnancy hormone stress and of feeling like it's all on me to sort stuff.

There are knock on impacts unfortunately from the room not being ready which I guess is more stressful than where the baby will sleep (suitcases of stuff lying around the house, builders to re organise, scaffolding to rearrange etc). Alot of the stress i think is feeling like I have to think bout it all and organise and plan on my own. Just doing it later is not sadly an option.

I had a helpful chat with Citizens advice bureau who gave me some direction of how to handle the company so I don't feel so freaked out.

Will have to talk to DH about taking on more now as I just can't take the worry of all this on my own now.

And breath!!!

You aren’t being unreasonable, I get stressed with house stuff and I’m not even pregnant!

You just want it to be all perfect for when baby arrives ❤️

It’s taken my builder 3 months to get my bifolds, he’s only gone and ordered the wrong size, so you can imagine my horror when they tried to fit it and realised it’s the wrong size! Xx

We're having our bathroom converted into a shower room which has resulted in the whole room being completely gutted. As DH is working we stupidly decided to stay in our home and it's been one of the most stressful experiences ever and I'm not pregnant or have young children.

The guys have been great, kept us involved on progress and have cleaned up as they go but all the same.

Its not a great situation but it is doable!

My DP and I started a large extension the day after her and our oldest child came home from hospital. My DD was 3 days old when the builders turned up and proceeded to rip our our kitchen, demolish the back wall of the house and pull up the flooring on the back two bedrooms. We spent the best part of 6 months living in a bedroom and a living room that contained a fridge, camping stove and microwave oven. They did have to move in with my in-laws for a week when the boiler and plumbing were being sorted. But we got through it, the house is exactly how we want it and we know if we can survive that we can survive anything.

I promise it gets better!

Adding to everyone else:

it’s also way easier doing house renovations with a new baby rather than a toddler!

House renovations of any kind will send most people crazy. It's annoying as hell and super stressful. Take a deep breath. It will be fine. You will get through it. Baby will be attached to you for the foreseeable future anyway.

I totally get it OP, we were still stuck in a hideous rental flat when DC1 arrived, there was no extra bedroom to give her and it really stressed me out at the time not having a designated space for all the baby stuff.

Baby won't need to sleep in it's own room for a good while yet but it IS very helpful to have the furniture in there so you've got a place to keep its clothes, blankets, nappies, presents from people, all those other billion things that just appear in your house when the baby arrives. Is the room actually habitable ie the old window is still there? If so, get a chest of drawers, changing table etc in there now so the baby's stuff has a place to live.

Redecorating, hanging curtains etc can all be done further down the line when it's ready to start sleeping in there.

And be kind to yourself. The urge to nest and get everything ready is very strong. YANBU.