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Neighbour Drama

11 replies

Hoppitydragon · 16/07/2025 20:44

I came home from work today to find my neighbour 1 had yet again parked on our drive. I rang the door bell they didn't answer so I knocked sharply on the door and asked them to move the car, guy said that he didn't live there and didn't know he couldn't park there, I said that the owners of the house knew it wasn't their driveway, please can you move the car. He did and told me I should be more polite!

A couple of hours later, my neighbour knocked on it door and started having a right go at me for knocking his door and asking someone to move their car. Their were lots of things said during which he threatened to punch in my door, break my windows and get all his mates to come round and park on and in front of my drive and that there was nothing I could do and that basically I was never to knock on his door again because I did it too loudly, I had embarrassed him in front of his friends and his uncle and he had a new baby. He has since then knocked on my door a further 3 times demanding to speak to my husband about it.

I was really annoyed they had parked there again, they also often have people park right in front of my car on the road meaning that neither of us or my attached neighbour can get out of our drives if we need to. In the last 3 years we have probably knocked on about 5 or 6 times asking them to move. There's loads of times we don't bother them. He thinks we're harassing him and wants us to stop knocking on!

I was about to report the threatening behaviour to the police, it's all being caught on our door camera, but feel that is going absolutely nuclear, so want to try and resolve amicably if I can.

AIBU in expecting them to just respect our driveway and not get pissed off if we are asking them to move, or should I just suck it up and let their guests park wherever the hell they want, no matter the inconvenience to us.

Sorry that was longer than I expected!

Neighbour Drama
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Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 16/07/2025 20:47

Just fence/gate it off.. And report them for threatening behaviour...

shellyleppard · 16/07/2025 20:50

I would definitely report them for threatening behaviour. Otherwise they will think they have gotten away with being absolute twat heads and will keep doing it. I reported my neighbour for this. Police came out same night

Hoppitydragon · 16/07/2025 21:10

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 16/07/2025 20:47

Just fence/gate it off.. And report them for threatening behaviour...

I would love to, but it's one of those estates where the front has to be kept open plan and even if we could fence it off it wouldn't get round the problem of people parking on the road directly in front of us.

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ByPeachScroller · 16/07/2025 21:18

He's threatened you, report him.

WilfredsPies · 16/07/2025 21:20

He has since then knocked on my door a further 3 times demanding to speak to my husband about it Has he spoken to your husband yet? What does he expect him to say? That the little woman has stepped out of line and that he’ll put you back in order?! I hope your husband tells him that he’s not your boss, he supports everything you’ve said and that if the neighbour threatens you again, or so much as looks at you sideways, he’ll come down on him like a ton of bricks. Since he clearly doesn’t respect a woman’s viewpoint, he can have a man’s.

AlphaApple · 16/07/2025 21:27

Do you have a ring doorbell? Don't answer the door to him again!

shortoedtreecreeper · 16/07/2025 21:28

You need to report his behaviour you can't resolve this amicabily, he 's not trying to be amicable .Can you put a bollard one that has to be unlocked if you can't have a gate or fence.

MissPeachyKeen · 16/07/2025 21:38

Get a bollard, lockable, for the front of your drive

Report his threats to the police

Keep ring doorbell and keep recordings of every time they block your drive from the road. Add it to the log and report as appropriate for harassment

EsmeSusanOgg · 16/07/2025 21:58

Hoppitydragon · 16/07/2025 20:44

I came home from work today to find my neighbour 1 had yet again parked on our drive. I rang the door bell they didn't answer so I knocked sharply on the door and asked them to move the car, guy said that he didn't live there and didn't know he couldn't park there, I said that the owners of the house knew it wasn't their driveway, please can you move the car. He did and told me I should be more polite!

A couple of hours later, my neighbour knocked on it door and started having a right go at me for knocking his door and asking someone to move their car. Their were lots of things said during which he threatened to punch in my door, break my windows and get all his mates to come round and park on and in front of my drive and that there was nothing I could do and that basically I was never to knock on his door again because I did it too loudly, I had embarrassed him in front of his friends and his uncle and he had a new baby. He has since then knocked on my door a further 3 times demanding to speak to my husband about it.

I was really annoyed they had parked there again, they also often have people park right in front of my car on the road meaning that neither of us or my attached neighbour can get out of our drives if we need to. In the last 3 years we have probably knocked on about 5 or 6 times asking them to move. There's loads of times we don't bother them. He thinks we're harassing him and wants us to stop knocking on!

I was about to report the threatening behaviour to the police, it's all being caught on our door camera, but feel that is going absolutely nuclear, so want to try and resolve amicably if I can.

AIBU in expecting them to just respect our driveway and not get pissed off if we are asking them to move, or should I just suck it up and let their guests park wherever the hell they want, no matter the inconvenience to us.

Sorry that was longer than I expected!

Report it to police. Have it logged. It was a threat of violence and damage. It was not proportional to your reasonable ask for him/ his guests to move.

Best to have a papertrail in case they do escalate

Greensnow · 17/07/2025 18:38

He's bullying you you can't allow it.Of course he can't park on your drive when he feels like it.Lots of good advice on here.Good luck

JohnofWessex · 17/07/2025 19:03

999 as soon as anyone kicks off

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