Been with my OH for well over 20 years now. Not married but 2 kids (teens). Before they came along, 15 year ago now, I admitted to cheating, stupid, drunk ONS. We agreed to make a go of it though, move on and to all intents and purposes OH outwardly at least seemed to get over it. Past couple of years though it comes up daily, to a point where I'm starting to wonder if I can carry on. I do love him, but he's obviously not happy and I'm wondering for everybody's sake is it time to admit defeat and separate? I've thought about RELATE, which he always seemed keen on, we tried it once back in the day but it was pretty raw and uncomfortable at least for me and anyway I'm thinking if he's not over it now, will he ever be?