Advice to son

[Puffins4eva]

He is 20 years old has been with his girlfriend for two years
Her family has invited him on holiday to Cornwall, but instead he has booked a solo trip to somewhere else. He 'claims' he forgot and double booked, now feels guilty, what should
I advise him to?
I he dosen't want to go, but his refusal. Will cause upset for her and her family

Should I tell him to compromise and go on the holiday to keep everyone happy

He's 20 years old. He needs to decide what to do.

He has to make this decision for himself.

I know that

But he has asked for my view

What advice would you give

You listen as he sounds off his thought process for deciding for himself.

None.

I don’t agree that we can’t give our children advice when they ask for it. In this case it will depend how much he values his relationship. If he agreed to do this holiday with his partners family first then he should stick to that, unless he’s not that bothered about his relationship. He shouldn’t have agreed to go if he didn’t want to and they may have spent money on bringing him.

Ask him how much he wants to please his girlfriend?

sounds like he needs a solo trip to figure out if he wants this girlfriend or not.

Had he accepted the invitation before booking his own trip? If not, he can politely decline and say he’d love to come next year.

How is telling him to go on the holiday a compromise? There's no compromise there whatsoever!

If he's booked another trip would he lose money? Or would pulling out of Cornwall cost his girlfriends family?

My advice would be what does he want from both and it is his choice but it is also her choice as to what she does if he doesn’t go.

ultimately if he picks the solo trip he probably will lose a girlfriend and if that is ok with him….

If he doesn't want to go noone should obligate him because we don't know why he doesn't want to go just tell.the family that he had something to do that he's sorry