Title doesn't explain much sorry, and I know some people are probably going to call me entitled but I just want to know if it's right for me to be a bit disappointed?
maybe a couple of times a year if that my mums side would get together either for birthdays, Christmas etc meals out it felt like we were all quite close. My parents then moved literally a 5 min drive to a village nearby saying that it would be cheaper so my mum could stop work (always been work shy, doesn't drive etc so I knew straight away she'd be asking for lifts all the time).
Il just add that my parents aren't even in their 60s yet.
Theyve made lots of new friends in their village and now me and my brother feel pushed out, if we ever go over on a weekend - they're constantly going out all the time with these friends (absolutely fine having friends lol life doesn't evolve around your adult children) but it feels like its since our families have grown, they make no effort to see our children (unless it's the birth of one). I can usually end up going to see mum with my children during the week as dad works, but I never get to see him there's no effort on their end at all. My brother rarely sees them as he doesn't drive and we can't all go in my car, they won't come to our houses.
She rarely sees her best friend of 50 years anymore because she spends her days off spending time with her grandchildren and having days out and my mum has said to me and pulled a face of disapproval that she spends time with them (not gonna lie, their set up it's like her children never have their own children) and her best friend has said it's odd to us that she doesn't spend much time with us anymore, she also still invites my mum out but my mum says no as soon as she finds out her grandchildren would be around).
The very odd time we might be able to get them out, they post photos of just the grandchildren and make out like they're looking after them and spend so much time with them when it's all a show.
I work predominantly with women, and a lot of them. The older ones always seem to be doing family stuff with their children/grandchildren and the younger mums seem pretty involved with their parents and doing family things with them still.
il admit, I'm sad my parents don't seem to want that kind of relationship anymore. Am i expecting too much?
can i please reiterate before i get a load of abuse- I don't expect them to have no life, just maybe show a bit more interest? I can't imagine my children growing up and having their own babies and me and my husband rarely seeing them