DH’s brother got married at the weekend. His family are big on family and have invited my mum (single and in her 60s) to stay with them before when we go, and she was invited. DH’s family all live five hours’ drive away. We have DS6, DS4 and DD1.
First, she didn’t RSVP for ages until I repeatedly asked as BIL was repeatedly asking me, after the deadline. Then after confirming she wanted to come in our car to save taking hers (fair enough but meant we struggled for space in our car - we have a seven seater but this meant we couldn’t fit the pushchair or much luggage). We were there for four nights, with meals and events and days out with extended family. They put on a really fun schedule with a lot of effort.
The whole time she was huffing about something or other, in a bad mood or muttering under her breath. She did offer to babysit DD on one night (other SIL had DSs) so DH and I could stay out later. When we got home, DH unloaded a few bottles of expensive leftover wine from the car that BIL had given him, and suggested giving one to the neighbour who’d kept an eye on the house. I said no, let’s keep them for a special party we have next weekend. DM then launched into a muttered tirade of “where’s MY bloody wine? I should have asked BIL, he’d have given it to me.”
I don’t think DH heard her and honestly I was too tired after the journey home to even reply. She’s gone home and texted about what a nice time she had.
AIBU to insist she’s not invited to next time? She doesn’t have many friends and is quite isolated but she makes it all such hard work.