DH and I have a 5 month old and 3 year old. DH takes 3 yr old to soft play in the morning so I was at home with the baby who was too hot and pretty cranky. DH got back home and shouted up the stairs that he had left his bag so was off to find it and left 3 yr old in the hallway. Baby who I was with upstairs was crying (hot and tired) and as ever this set the 3 yr old off so I had two crying kids. We had to get a birthday card (plus food for dinner) before we were off out to friends birthday party after lunch. So with much crying I got sun cream on the 3 yr old and into pushchair, got baby in sling and went off to shops to sort (in 30 degree heat I might add due to UK heatwave).
So heres my AIBU - I was pretty pissed off with DH that he just left and went to get bag (in a lovely quiet air conditioned car!) and left me to sort the rest with two kids. I get he had to get bag back but he could have at least taken the 3 yr old with him so I only had one kid to juggle. He says it was unfair to make 3 yr old sit in car whilst he drove to soft play and back so thought he was better at home (he hadn’t thought through that we needed to get card or food before the party). DH could have stopped past the shops to get stuff on way back from finding bag but it would have been quite tight on time and we probably would have been late to bday party.
IABU - DH had to get bag back and we just needed to make the best of a rubbish situation
IANBU - DH should have at least discussed it with me / mitigated the impact on me in some way
I also recognise this is a pretty petty argument but we’ve been bickering about it and I’m genuinely curious whether IABU!