The men on OLD suck

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I guess this is more of a rant that an AIBU but I'm just so done

I'm in my 30's, got my life together and just looking for someone to share it with but the men on online dating are just awful

either just want to use you for sex

or make out like they want a relationship and then just dip

I had a few amazing dates with a guy and then mid conversation he just ghosted, no reason at all

seeing a guy and all going well and then suddenly he's too anxious to date and can't commit right now

just so many bullshit excuses. Like if they don't want a girlfriend or to be serious then why say they do. Why sell the fantasy of a healthy relationship just to pull the rug when it looks like it could be going that way.

I just can't get my head round it. And it's not just the two I've said, it's all of them!

has anyone actually had any success online dating! I feel like it's just pointless right now.

OLD might have its fans, but I really can’t see that it is any sort of solution. It’s very old fashioned but I’d encourage you to enjoy your life snd stop looking for companionship. Get to know people, when they like you esp the women will introduce you to their friends. The key is to enjoy your life snd allow anyone to be an extra rather than waste your life looking for someone who may not after all enhance your life at all. Good luck.

OP just posted something similar today! Been messaged, photo bombed for two weeks, sometimes 2 in the morning. he makes a 3 hour journey back to see me early (he was away) thought I was the best thing ever (I said he hasn't met me yet but he insisted we'd click). Went out last night... disaster!
Looked nothing like his photo, invited me to a BBQ, but by the end of date could tell something was off. Took ages to reply to my message. When I messaged this morning I asked him was all ok and he said I was a lovely girl etc etc but didn't click.
Prob had a lot to do that I didn't kiss and hold hands all night or go in for a coffee.
I asked him why he invited me to a BBQ then and he said that was early in the evening before he changed his mind 🤣🤣🤣
But it still hurts, it's just another failed date.

I had one tell me he would need to be breastfed during sex, preferably with milk but pretend was fine too. 🙄 I've literally just given up.

I'm early 50's and have recently dipped my toe in OLD. Omg the puddle is small. Feel for people younger than me. What a nightmare