To be revered too as Missy

[CleaningAngel]

The other day someone I know referred to me as 'missy' as in she said hello missy.
I found it rude and condescending, iam.a 52 year old adult women. Not a stroppy teenager. I didn't say anything at the time. Said person isn't a close friend more of a friend of a friend/ acquaintance.
If she says it again am.i in the right to say " excuse me less of the missy please"
Said woman is late 60s church goer, sees herself as a pillar of the community!

It wouldn’t bother me

Same! Very surprised at number of people saying it’s on a par with other endearments or not rude. In my experience it’s really not!

The only time I’ve been called that as an adult was in a passive aggressive manner by a work colleague who for whatever reason didn’t like me and they were sort of making it clear they’re just tolerating me. We were getting into a work vehicle for something and everyone else was either not called anything or referred to by their proper name. Then I get told ‘come on Missy’. Urgh and I just had to ignore it but to be called that in the workplace (I was in my 40s as was she) and in front of others was meant to humiliate in two ways 🙄

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest if someone was being affectionate and addressed me as ‘Missy.’

Perhaps you would prefer, ‘Hello, you cunt!’

No just hello would suffice!

Iam anything but easily offended, iam very broad minded, however I don't like been talked down to

There's nothing objectively insulting about what she said, on the face of it. It's used as a term of endearment unless in an argument.

If you must, if you dislike it, "Is it alright not to call me Missy please, June? Just my name is fine" (smile)

Is "Missus" any better?

I get called ‘miss’ several times a day! Can’t get worked up about that!

The first time I was addressed as "queen" I wasn't sure how to take it. But I gave the speaker the benefit of the doubt. Turns out I was right to do so, it was a term of endearment (like love and dear) where they were from.

I suggest you do the same until you are sure what the speakers intention was/is.

I wouldn’t feel I was being talked down to if I was called Missy.

For all the people that think it's not rude or offensive, I've googled it, hers 1 example, seems its a question been asked alot before

People do this when they can’t be bothered to learn people’s names. Or they can’t remember names/ have a lot to learn.
The nurse I see at my GP surgery calls everyone ‘lovely’
‘Nice to see you Lovely, how have you been?’
too lazy to look my name up before my appointment. It’s not uncommon.
With respect though, this is a You Need To Use Your Words moment, rather than post on AIBU one.
’please don’t call me Missy, I don’t like it’
If you’re lucky she’ll be offended and never speak to you again!

Wouldn’t bother me but I’m from the north where calling people everything from doll to duck to chicken is really common and not meant in any way condescending.

I don’t use these terms myself, but I wouldn’t assume any negative motive on the part of people who do!

I truly believe you are reading way too much into this.
The quote you found is still just one person's opinion and to be honest the use of this phrase is highly context dependent. I very much doubt meant any offence was meant but you seem determined to find some.

Wouldn’t bother me but I’m from the north where calling people everything from doll to duck to chicken is really common and not meant in any way condescending.
I don’t use these terms myself, but I wouldn’t assume any negative motive on the part of people who do!
Excatlthe same with me.
Today ive been called a young lass ( im 60, but I'll take it. 😆)
Cockers
Sweetheart
Love ( loads of times by both males and female
Dear
Sweetie
Chicken feet ( yes really), amongst other things.
Ive also been called a fucking mong but that was a young person who objected to being restrained after belting a member of staff . I'd definitely take Missy, love or darling over that!!

People do this when they can’t be bothered to learn people’s names. Or they can’t remember names/ have a lot to learn
Not necessarily true.
Everyone that used these terms on me was either a friend, neighbour or work colleague. They know my name.
Honestly, I like the terms of affection.
Everything seems negative, spiteful or people are offended snd quick to jump down people throat that im happy to live in a bubble where people use these words with a smile and not intending to cause offensive.
Of course context is everything but generally speaking, I find most people nice tbh so haven't got an issue.

You should reply "Hello yourself, you nosey old boot".

For all the people that think it's not rude or offensive, I've googled it, hers 1 example, seems its a question been asked alot before

Good old AI, it must be true then. Take no notice of people’s lived experiences and real life examples of how it can be used in everyday parlance.

There are lots and lots of threads on Google about it,on forums etc etc, not just AI, I just used this as one example

There are lots and lots of threads on Google about it,on forums etc etc, not just AI, I just used this a
s one example
There are a lot of posts saying its not a problem.
I think there is a middle ground and that is around context. You can tell if someone is being pleasant and it meaning to cause offensive. If this is it , no problem.why go to war with some of the riddiculas replies that have been suggested. If you came to my town, you would t get hrogh the day, you would be in a permanent state if rage!
Of course it's an issue if offence was meant. Then you can say what you like as a reply!

A 52 year old womAn. (Only one of you.) Dont stress about it. Who cares. Annoying but not worth the hassle.

Dear god really? One of my managers called all females ‘miss’ - she’s a young female and I’m old enough to be her mother and married. Do I take offence? Course I bloody don’t.

I know MN is the place to go for advice but if this is the worse thing you’ve got to worry about be bloody grateful.

Was it just a jokey greeting which fell a bit flat? If someone is going after you, trying to get to you they will keep at it. In most instances people don't "mean" anything by what they have said and are not out to cut you down there was just a blip in communications.

The only two Missys I can think of are a friend’s cat (who would obviously expect to be revered) and the Dr Who character so I’d be a bit WTF. It’s not really a thing in London though as far as I know.

"If she says it again am.i in the right to say " excuse me less of the missy please"

You can say whatever you like.

Will it make you feel better?

Alternatively, you can relax, let it go and not waste any more of your precious life worrying about some harmless, throwaway greeting from a person who is nothing to you.

Oh iam so sorry for the typo