Exhausted and DH has invited child over for a playdate

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Ive spent the weekend away at a brownie camp with DD. During the night there were some very upset home sick children and an unwell child which I had to get up to help with and therefore I had very little sleep. I then had to be up and lively all day with the kids of course. So long story short Ive come home exhausted. Only to find that my DH has organised a play date here for my youngest child so there's 2 very excited kids running about when all I want is quiet and rest. I suggested DH take them out for a walk for a while because Ive totally burnt out and hes said hes too busy. AIBU to think hes being a bit selfish here. He knew how tired I was. I had told him on the phone.

Just have a lovely long bath and go to bed. His invitation, his responsibility. You’ve done enough.

Why should the other DC miss out because you’re tired

Surely if he organised the playdate he should be the one entertaining the children.

Time to take to your sick bed and leave them to it. On the plus side, your younger child has inbuilt entertainment.

The DC shouldn't miss out, but the OP's DH arranged the play date, so he should take responsibility for the children involved.

Is he not supervising them? He needs to be un-busy and deal with his choice to host a guest.

All you need to do is take yourself off for a nice rest and leave him to it.

He invited them. He should run the show

But if he arranged the play date then he needs to be present for it. Take yourself off for a bath and some chill time and leave him to deal with it all.

I agree just have a bath and go to bed. Presumably your youngest would be there anyway, so the house wouldn't be "quiet"?

Busy doing what? Surely if he arranged it then he's watching them?

Unless it was a last minute plan then it would have been a bit crap cancel it just because you're tired. He should have just agreed to take them out/keep the noise away from you so you can rest.

I’d be going to bed and leaving it to DH to sort. He invited, he is hosting.

Plus, if it was a sickness bug I wouldn’t want to spread the possible germs.

Just go and have a bath and leave him to it - you don't need to get involved, surely?

There’s always one isn’t there 🙄

How is he 'busy'?! He's supervising the children, right?!

I'd go out, take a blanket and lie on the grass in a park or something. He can't just arrange for a small child to come over and then wander off, then need adult supervision!

No it wasnt planned or discussed with me. He called them today and organised it knowing the situation

@Sminty2 is correct.

Bath and bed, asap.

The playdate is your DH's responsibility. Fuck off to his "too busy" he created the situation and it's nothing to do with you.

He organised it, he can supervise them. Go and have a bath with a book or something and lock the door.

Of course you aren't being unreasonable, why has he organised a playdate if he is too busy to oversee it? He has organised it, he should be facilitating it. I would be pissed off my husband organised a playdate and then expected me to do all the hosting , especially after a busy weekend when you just want to relax.

Isn’t it time they were heading home soon? I would leave him to continue keeping an eye on them in the meantime.

So is he expecting you to supervise the play date, or is the issue you don't want non brownie dd and her friend playing in the house? How old are they?

How old are the children? I’m guessing they’re keeping themselves occupied?

I don't understand what's happening, is the husband not supervising them? He wanted to host the kid, so leave him to it.
Put headphones on and go about your day/relax or whatever.

How old are they? Surely the invited child will be going home soon? Mine are 1 and 3 though, so I’ve no idea about bedtimes for older children.

Bath or long shower and chill out on your bed with the door shut. DH arranged the play date so he can supervise