People gushing about partners on social media

[Orangesandlemons77]

I find it a bit cringey when couples post gushing messages about the other one publicly on e.g. Facebook. Is it just me? It feels like it should be a private thing.

Also seems to have no thought for others who might not have partners etc.

It is cringy unless there is a major event like a wedding or the birth of a first child and even then it depends on the tone. Other ostentatious posts/gushing/staged photo ops make me think there is more likely to be something wrong with the couple than something right.

Having said that, I don’t see why that should really affect anyone else. It doesn’t make you any more or less alone.

Agree with your first point

disagree with your second

Their social media they can post what they like.

People don't not post pictures of their children in case it upsets people, people don't not post pictures of their holiday, I mean where do you draw the line of "what upsets others"?

No it doesn't bother me, but then H has also been told not to try and a) post or in real life b) try any of that cliche romantic shit babe - this includes but not exclusive to anniversary cards!

You can "mute" people on social media @Orangesandlemons77

“Happy couples don’t post about each other on social media”

he has a point, though I don’t think other people not having partners (parents/pets/siblings/children etc) should stop people posting about their own situations if that’s what they want to do.

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I don’t see the problem. If someone’s partner makes them happy and they want to shout about it, then why not. I like my friends and want them to be happy. I’m happy they have good partners. Showing appreciation publicly can be a nice thing to do. As for not showing thought for others who don’t have a partner, people could literally never post about anything if they always had to think that way. What about people posting a picture of their baby upsetting someone who lost a baby? Someone posting holiday snaps when someone may not be able to afford a holiday? Someone celebrating a promotion when someone may be facing redundancy…. the list goes on. A general appreciation of a partner post is different to sending Margaret a DM saying how great your husband is when hers has just walked out on her and left her with 3 kids.

" If someone’s partner makes them happy and they want to shout about it, then why not."

That's sort of what a wedding is isn't it? (the party part at least).

It screams lack of trust/security to me. A lady from our book groups husband posted a really gushy post a few years back. After a few wines she admitted she wrote it as she was annoyed by his lack of public affection. She’s massively insecure though.

That's quite weird. Did he see it?

@Gwenhwyfar yes, that’s part of it…but in a marriage meant to last a lifetime, I would hope it goes way beyond just celebrating on the actual wedding day. The wedding day is just the beginning.

I don’t think anything of it. It’s just people being people.

Yes, it was on his page and she was tagged. He is a lovely guy but seem to plod along with her and doesn’t seem to get much say in his life .

I don't do social media for a number of reasons. Imo it causes more problems than it solves. And people will typically only show the good news.

I think the same. Why don’t you just tell them in person!

I came off social media a while back.
what I did notice when on it is the people who posted sickly sweet posts about their fabulous partners, were the unhappiest.

Yes, but I was thinking when listening to the TikTok that actually it's Ok to want to 'show off' your special person, introduce them to friends, etc. and this is just the social media equivalent.

Most of the time when couples feel the need to make OTT public declarations on Facebook, they’re miserable in real life and trying to prove to themselves and others that they’re happy, especially if certain people who have questioned their relationship will read it.

There’s a few times I’ve read things from couples where one was actually cheating in real life, or the women who make out their man is so loving and caring when actually people know he’s abusive because he’s given her several black eyes in the past and is controlling.

Yeah it can be annoying but not as irritating as the ‘woe is me’ miserable fuckers who post about how awful their lives and endless mental health memes are 4-5 times a day. Their lives aren’t awful in comparison to some.