Does a woman stepping back from initiating dates encourage a man to take the reigns?

[Sunshine386]

In dating situations does stepping back a little encourages a man to initiate dates. Do men become accustomed to it if a woman is guiding the relationship too much and they sit back. Does a woman sitting back a bit give the man a kick up the rear into action?

in my opinion, yes, he should be doing the chasing …. wait and see his actions will tell you if he’s interested.

If he’s interested he would be equally eager to initiate dates. If he’s not bothering then he’s not interested and just along for the ride imo.

Yes and no - if the guy is not really all that interested it just drift and end naturally- it he is keen enough then he will step up

If it's interested it would

Why should “he” be doing the chasing, what year is it ?

I presume you mean 'reins?'

Maybe, but his next steps would clarify how keen he was..

Depends on the guy. If he's not that into you, it won't have much effect.

Only if she can spell.

Feel better?

In my experience no, if he's not forthcoming with dates you appearing to lose interest is actually convenient for him and the whole thing will drop off.

Well it does mean an entirely different thing tbf.

I did all of the running in my last relationship and I regret it. My ex was very laid back. Too laid back. I arranged all of the dates because I knew he wouldn't. It set the tone for the whole relationship. He was lazy in every aspect of life. Looking back, I'm not sure if he was really into me or just happy to go with the flow.

To answer your question I dont think stepping back forces him to step up. But absolutely do. And if he doesn't step up then leave him where he's at. Don't continue to do all the running like I did.

To be fair it's quite obvious what the OP meant

In my opinion, if a man is interested he does most of (or at least half of) the chasing and initiating dates.
If he’s not interested, he doesn’t initiate.

It’s one of those annoying old fashioned things that still holds up.
I could be wrong but when I think of my life and most of my girlfriends, it’s true.

Yeah I know and mostly I let these things roll over me.

I’m not interested in men who are only incentivised by ‘the chase’, but each to their own.

There is no universal rule that all men would behave or respond in the same way.
(Or women)

Are you dating someone and you are initiating all the dates? Are you feeling like this relationship is unbalanced and wondering if he really is interested in you?

Trying to force/encourage/chivvy him into caring about you and being bothered enough to arrange dates isn't going to result in a good quality relationship.

You need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him you feel like the relationship is out of balance and that if it is to continue, you would like him to be more forthcoming and make more of an effort.

If he isn't bothered, the relationship isn't worth bothering about. Trying to trick him into revealing his feelings about you is silly. Just ask him and tell him what you need him to do for this relationship to work.

No, I find they also stop making the effort and so it dwindles both sides.

It is reins, if you are using a riding analogy.

Thanks for the feedback. He wasn't like this initially (not initiating dates) but has had a lot going on in his life so I don't know if that has something to do with it.

Reigns was obviously a typo and I meant reins, we are all guilty of making mistakes like that from time to time, but thank you to those of you blunt enough to point it out, you must be lovely to speak to in person 🙄