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ThAn thAn thAaaaaan

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Thispupsgottofly · 12/07/2025 17:36

I swear this didn't use to be such a common error, but I have read so many posts today where people say then when they mean than!
I guess it's because lots of people (including me) pronounce it 'thn'.
Eg. If you say you'd rather stay at home then go to the beach it sounds like you're going to do one after the other!
Aaaaargh!

OP posts:
StarCourt · 12/07/2025 20:28

i text regularly with somebody who uses your when they mean you’ll. Took me ages to get used to it but still jumps out at me every time.

EstherGreenwood63 · 12/07/2025 20:33

Can I join in?
SiXth, siXth, siXXXXXXXth... ahhhhh, that's better...

Thispupsgottofly · 12/07/2025 20:39

EstherGreenwood63 · 12/07/2025 20:33

Can I join in?
SiXth, siXth, siXXXXXXXth... ahhhhh, that's better...

Do people say sith instead? Maybe they're into Star Wars.

OP posts:
HereBeFuckery · 12/07/2025 20:41

I keep spotting ‘women’ used as a singular noun. There’s a perfectly serviceable singular, and it’s deeply confusing to use them interchangeably.

TaborlinTheGreat · 12/07/2025 20:45

Thispupsgottofly · 12/07/2025 20:39

Do people say sith instead? Maybe they're into Star Wars.

No they say 'sicth'.

EstherGreenwood63 · 12/07/2025 20:45

@Thispupsgottofly ha ha that would be preferable tbh. 'They' say 'sicKth'. Shudder.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 12/07/2025 20:47

EstherGreenwood63 · 12/07/2025 20:33

Can I join in?
SiXth, siXth, siXXXXXXXth... ahhhhh, that's better...

This. This all day long! When did this sick-th shit start? Drives me batty.

Thispupsgottofly · 12/07/2025 20:51

EstherGreenwood63 · 12/07/2025 20:45

@Thispupsgottofly ha ha that would be preferable tbh. 'They' say 'sicKth'. Shudder.

Oh is this a pronunciation thing? In that case I think I say sickth 😂
I find it very difficult to actually say sixth pronouncing those sounds as they're written.

OP posts:
Itiswhysofew · 12/07/2025 20:59

I seen instead of saw.

Of instead of have. This is so common.

lazyarse123 · 12/07/2025 21:03

proximalhumerous · 12/07/2025 20:21

"Painful" only has one 'l' even if we're not being pedantic. 😄

Very true 😁 but i was trying to not swear at him.

lazyarse123 · 12/07/2025 21:12

ButteredRadish · 12/07/2025 19:27

THIS! ⬆️ By the bucket-load! Read it, take every word in, slowly. Process it as you go. Slowly. It’s not that hard!!

’OP said in her post that they’ve no kids/they’re renters/they’re not married. How did you miss that?!’

You're so right. It is really aggravating. You wonder sometimes if they're reading the same thing I am, and then the ones who carry on the misapprehension.

StillAGoth · 12/07/2025 21:21

WhistlingStraits · 12/07/2025 19:32

The curious thing is that my children’s primary school education focussed so much more on grammar than my own did in the late 70s and 80s.

My children are in their early 20s and have a really good standard of grammar that won’t embarrass them, so why is it not the same for anyone that’s had a state education in the last 20 years?

They genuinely think it's a viable alternative because it's how their parents write/speak. Parents help their childen at home and teach them incorrectly, or incorrectly 'correct' something I've taught them because they don't know they're wrong...

I've corrected children's use of language in their writing at school and been told, "Yeah, but that's just how posh people speak."

Shouldn't/wouldn't/couldn't of is one that really gets me. It blows the children's minds when I tell them it's 'have'.

And the incredibly poor standard of English published online is also responsible.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 12/07/2025 21:33

WhistlingStraits · 12/07/2025 18:56

Has anyone else noticed all the “n” instead of “and” lately? I keep seeing posts with it and it’s baffling. Along the lines of “its just me n my kids n I know he loves us n wants the best for us n I understand but…” Where does that even come from? It seems batshit to me.

I have, I think it’s just one poster that keeps popping up.

I guess it's like the ubiquitous Mac n Cheese that's popped up everywhere now, as opposed to Macaroni Cheese. Funnily, never see Cauli 'n' Cheese.

I can go one better, though. I give you my cousins text replies of 'a no' (which is meant to be I Know. I'm sorry, but with predictive text these days there's no excuse and it just sounds thick.

Yes, I'm very judgy about it.

TaborlinTheGreat · 13/07/2025 08:34

WhistlingStraits · 12/07/2025 19:32

The curious thing is that my children’s primary school education focussed so much more on grammar than my own did in the late 70s and 80s.

My children are in their early 20s and have a really good standard of grammar that won’t embarrass them, so why is it not the same for anyone that’s had a state education in the last 20 years?

Various reasons. The SPaG they learn in primary school is very specific, not always very useful, not necessarily focused on correcting common errors, and is crammed for SATS and then dropped like a hot potato. Plus with many kids it goes in one ear and out of the other.

I'm a secondary school MFL teacher. Part of the reason UK kids (and adults!) find foreign languages so hard is that they have so little awareness of how their own language works.

SuperShinyToothWoman · 13/07/2025 08:40

Upmost.

???

Lins77 · 13/07/2025 08:42

Pandimoanymum · 12/07/2025 19:01

Yes, actually you are probably right, thinking about it. The conversation between us would likely not be quite as sparkling as I'd like!
Someone I met in person described an event that disappointed him as "a bit of a damp squid" and I couldn't get past it. There were other signs that he wasn't going to pan out, to be fair but I still felt very judgy.

"Damp squid" is actually delightful 😂

"Loose" for "lose" is my pet hate, but it's so common that there's little point getting worked up about it.

shirtyshirt · 13/07/2025 09:15

Today I wrote free rein on a post and my phone underlined it and suggested reign, it also just underlined suggested and suggested siggested. So some of this has to be phone mischief!

Lins77 · 13/07/2025 09:21

I've got another - "slither" for "sliver". I keep seeing this in actual published novels.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 13/07/2025 12:32

Lins77 · 13/07/2025 09:21

I've got another - "slither" for "sliver". I keep seeing this in actual published novels.

I've seen this a lot too. It's as though nobody knows what the words actually 'mean', so they just point themselves at something that sounds right. And then the mistake gets perpetuated, because everyone has seen it written down somewhere and THEY don't know what it means either.

HyggeTygge · 13/07/2025 12:37

I used to see "rest bite" in an old job in the last century Shock so that's not a new one!

"Sell" and "sale" are commonly confused where I am.

EstherGreenwood63 · 13/07/2025 12:40

@Lins77 YES! So much YES.... why??!

TaborlinTheGreat · 13/07/2025 12:41

SuperShinyToothWoman · 13/07/2025 08:40

Upmost.

???

Sorry - are you confused at why 'upmost' is a mistake, or are you baffled that people use it wrongly instead of 'utmost'?

threenaancurrywhore · 13/07/2025 13:10

Lins77 · 13/07/2025 09:21

I've got another - "slither" for "sliver". I keep seeing this in actual published novels.

That’s one I do on purpose because it makes me laugh

SuperShinyToothWoman · 13/07/2025 13:31

TaborlinTheGreat · 13/07/2025 12:41

Sorry - are you confused at why 'upmost' is a mistake, or are you baffled that people use it wrongly instead of 'utmost'?

Apologies, was poorly multitasking.
No idea whether that is correct, or whether it should be hyphenated.
However, yes, my bafflement relates to people erroneously spelling 'utmost'.

Pandimoanymum · 13/07/2025 14:20

Lins77 · 13/07/2025 08:42

"Damp squid" is actually delightful 😂

"Loose" for "lose" is my pet hate, but it's so common that there's little point getting worked up about it.

Yes, I know what you mean about damp squid. There is something quite pleasing about it, it's just that if someone uses it instead of "squib" my mind goes down that rabbit hole of "why would you say 'damp squid?' It makes no sense. Squids are supposed to be damp, therefore, a damp squid does not describe something that was a let-down. Which is what you're trying to describe, and why it is 'damp squib, squib, SQUIB!'" 😂
The upside of this for me is that it does always conjure up a mental image of a little pink squid in a rockpool, which is quite nice.
Maybe we should re-purpose "damp squid" to mean something that was everything you expected it to be. "I went to Glasto for the first time this year, and it was amazing, a completed damp squid"