SIL used pictures of my children in local show!

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That time of year, village summer fair with various competitions etc, but I am livid.

We are NC with my SIL (DH’s sister) due to her extremely toxic nature/meddling/controlling/strange “one-upping”/ spitting/rudeness/ disrespect.

I was browsing the photography section of the tent in the village fair and saw pictures of MY children with various labels under various themes, neatly printed! Comments to me included “nice pictures, well done!” And me explaining they were not my photos and I had no idea who entered them. Anyway, found out from one of the organisers that it was her (SIL) and I am so angry. If we were on good terms and she had asked I would say, sure, that sounds like fun go for it! But we are not, she did not ask, she has done alot of damage and im sitting here thinking how dare you use my children!

AIBU to be feeling this angry? I think I would feel angry at her for doing this even if we were on good terms. Thanks

How has she got photos of your children if you are NC ?

I'd be furious.

Some are old photos before we took the desicion to go no contant with her, some it seems MIL has passed on to her from my SM

Mighty be time to watermark any photos you post.

So these are photos you took (the ones shes taken from social media?
I'd inform the village fete officials she's been cheating. At our village fete cheating would be village gossip.

Spitting??

Yes, spitting-NC and keep away from my children please. delightful woman she is 🙈

If it's a photography competition she could only enter pictures she took, not pictures someone else took.

Well she bloody well did enter pictures someone else took 😂

Tell the village fete committee. Remove the pictures. Check your legal rights and go to the police.

She entered pictures she did not take - Report that to the fair organisers

Take care with social media - Do not post anything you wouldn't want seen blown up into pictures at a village fair and watermark all photos you do post

People were saying ‘well done’ to you? Did she enter them in your name?

me explaining they were not my photos and I had no idea who entered them

Why did you explain they were not your photos, if you later claim that you took them? Copyright belongs to the person taking photos, and you can use reasonable right to privacy if any were taken in a public place. You can't do anything when you invent stories though, because nobody knows what to advise in that case.

They were not my photos that I had entered is what I mean, and no some were not my photos. A mixture of the two like I said previously. No story being invented. What a strange thing to say.

No. Photos presented with entry number on them, fate organiser had list of entry number with corresponding entry name.

Time to exclude DMIL when you post. Pretty easy to do, I’ve done it previous but for different reasons.

DMIL will still be in your SM and will still see some things but not the ones that you’ve excluded her from before you post.

Riiiight. So you said to the organiser "I took those photos, and these ones of my kids were taken in my private home, and I have not given permission for them to be used." And she said......?

Meanwhile your SIL (no contact) is roaming around the same little village fete as you and your kids, yet that isn't tricky at all!

why are you creating scenario’s? 😂 My kids were not at the village fete, nor my SIL at the time I was there, she had dropped photos off in morning and gone home, she is there now though. 😂

I asked you a direct question about the organiser's response.

Normally a village fete is designed for humans to turn up, rather than just stick up pictures and vegetables then run away. They run at times like 11-4pm or 2-5pm. Either you're very bad at describing the event and how everyone participated, or yours is very unusual.

I havent come here to give you an in detail timetable of the local village fete 🙄 it is a perfectly normal village fete with evening entertainment. Yes “stick up photos and run away” might be very telling of the many strange things my SIL does, including entering photos of other peoples children to be entered without telling the parents.

For years i helped run such an event. Entries were staged the night/morning before. Tents closed at 12. Judging done without the public present. Everything anonomus. So i dont understand your point.

Thank you, seems to be a mumsnet member searching for an argument rather than contributing to the forum x