AIBU to think that DH should ask me how my Dad is doing after a TIA?

[Monkeymonster]

My Dad had a TIA on Tuesday, confirmed at hospital on Wednesday. I told DH on Wednesday and he asked questions and how he was etc, but he hasn't mentioned since - either to ask how Dad is doing or me. For context Dad is mid 70s, lives alone about 2hrs from us, so I've spoken to him a fair bit over the last few days but not visited (he's at home).
I feel quite upset that DH hasn't asked but can't work out if I'm being hormonal and overthiking this and being unreasonable or not?

Sorry to read about your dad. What is your DH like normally?

I would find it odd if my partner behaved as you've described. Has your DH not even questioned whether or not you're going to visit your dad?

It does seem odd to me but my lovely dad died last week so maybe that has coloured my judgement.

Are you withholding info to see if he asked. I would just proactively provide the info after I got any updates rather than wait to be asked

Has your DH been in earshot when you have been speaking with your Dad? Could he just have inferred how things are from your half of the conversation?
If not, I do think he is being unusually uninterested in a significant family issue and it reasonable to feel upset by that.
I think you should raise it with your husband. I would really want to know. “Why haven’t you asked after my Dad?” could seem accusatory but I think it is reasonable to say “this bothers me and so I would like to understand why”.
The truth is probably just something disappointingly self-absorbed like “I didn’t think of that” or “I didn’t want to upset you” or “I assumed you’d tell me if you wanted to talk about it” which is really just shit, lazy man-speak for “difficult emotions make me uncomfortable. I have no real clue how to offer support or sympathy so I keep my head down and hope you’ll deal with it alone so the atmosphere in my placid little man-world doesn’t get polluted by your inconvenient feelings”
I hope you and your Dad are doing ok.

Thank you for the replies. DH is normally like this I guess, so not out of character.
I haven't spoken to Dad within his earshot, and haven't been consciously withholding information. I only really clocked this afternoon that he hadn't asked.

My DH would have asked how my dad was and he would have also have asked how I was, because he'd be concerned about me coping with upsetting news about a close family member and any emotional or physical labour I was doing for my mum or siblings.

Ask me how I know, 😔 it's been a tough year with both our family's health

I hope your dad's doing better 💐

So sorry to hear about your Dad @MissSophiaGrace

And yes OP it would be normal for your H to ask about how your Dad is getting on. He should be concerned and he should be wanting to support you.

@ThymeandBasilthank you, I appreciate your kind words.