To go on a date with him?

[blueSkyTowel]

I separated from my partner of 15 years about a year ago. I was walking my dog and an ex work colleague of his was sat outside the local pub. He asked me to join me on the way back or to pop back later when I’ve sorted the dog out etc, but it was late and I didn’t, expecting to hear no more. He added me on Facebook and has since messaged saying it was a shame I didn’t head back up, asking what was happening with me and my ex and saying he got divorced a couple of years ago. I know him to say hello to and knew of his wife etc, but didn’t know him as such - he was obviously closer to my ex having worked with him. He’s asked me to meet up with him if I fancy it, for a walk or a drink etc to have a catch up about life and ex’s etc.

im in 2 minds - i have 2 young children and im not really sure im looking for a relationship. Ive spend a bit of time with my ex lately but we certainly are not back living together or living like a couple by any means.

what do you think?

Do he and your ex still talk?

You and your ex are still talking, what does that mean? Do you still want things to work?

What do you think this guy is after, something serious or maybe a fling? Have you ever gotten the vibe that he found you hot?

Would you be after a fling?

Just some questions to ask yourself really

At least you know that if you wanna get back out there, you won't be short of options 😄🥰

I wouldn’t. You’ve only been separated for a year and it’s too soon. Fair enough if dating had been on your radar. But it wasn’t so I think this is an entanglement you don’t need at the moment.

First of all, you know that he was lying when he asked about what was happening with you and your ex lately. He asked that question as if he was trying to sound as if he did not know of your break-up, but would he have suggested a walk alone with you if that were the case? No.

The fact that he has no boundaries with pursuing the ex-partner of a work colleague, when he has millions of other women to choose from, could be a hint of worse qualities, or a level of loneliness and desperation that could prove problematic.

Further, if you have only been broken up for a year after having been with someone for 15 years, this seems fast, and especially with a man that seems to not have the boundaries one should have.