I have an elderly relative who I give some emotional, practical & emotional support to. A few years ago for other reasons I relocated somewhat closer to this person. Since then age and infirmity have made them largely incapacitated. They refuse to go into a.home & have daily carers.
This person is extremely needy. Sometimes the need is genuine,.sometimes.its pure emotional manipulation. What I have seen numerous times is neighbours or paid professionals calling me (one of the only family they have) up after taking verbal or emotional abuse from the individual. It is as if the recipient of the abuse feels entitled to offload every unreasonable word, racist comment etc onto me. I am nor this person's child. Even if I was, I'm surprised at people behaving this way. I've also now had to distance myself from some of the persons entourage as, sooner or later, you get that look from them a pained expression and the question "how is x"..
Not 1 single person has ever said "how are you?" This situation at one point.had me contemplating ending my own life.
Is this a thing? Is there a term for it? I once read an actual family carer (a category I domt put myself in) saying they felt like they were the de facto complaints department for others.