To ask those who are estranged or NC from family - what was your wedding day like?

[CleverTealGoose]

I’ve been thinking about how different weddings must feel when you’re not on speaking terms with parents, siblings, or other close family. Did you feel free? Sad? Relieved?

AIBU to wonder how people navigated the emotions, the guest list, or even the silence on what’s supposed to be a “family day?” I imagine it can be both empowering and quietly painful and I’d really appreciate hearing how others handled it.

As you might guess from the name, I am estranged from my parents. When I got married I was very low contact and didn't trust them to not behave on the day. We essentially had a dinner party for a group of close friends in a lovely boutique hotel, criteria being people who we would have had round for dinner to the house, and stuck a wedding ceremony at the start. I was able to relax and enjoy the day without having to keep an eye on my family. As we ditched the traditional family thing, we also ditched everything else that's expected e.g. bride walks in, groom stood waiting. We just did what we wanted to do, the hotel and registrar were amazing and went with our ideas and wishes, and it all worked wonderfully.